This is a bit of a weird one and goes back about 4 years.
I’ve had 3 DC go through the same primary. There is only two there now but one is year 6.
The previous head had been there about 25 years and the new head only started in September. The previous head was a very strange woman. It’s hard to describe why but there was something decidedly “off” with her. She was loved by the children in all fairness. The parents not so much. The school is in a deprived area but takes kids from all over, it’s a weird mix of 50% local estate kids and then lots of others from around the town.
Anyway. I was on the board of governors and had been for a few years. We had a meeting one night to discuss some poor results the school had got and I was nominated to raise them with the head during the meeting. It was awful and she was visibly annoyed to be being questioned by a parent. After the meeting had finished I left and she followed me to the outside of the school where my car was parked. She then said: (and this is pretty much word for word)
“oh Mrs X I was meaning to have a word with you. Is there something going on at home at the moment? I said no everything was fine (nothing was going on at all). She then said “well I have some reports from the DCs teachers that the children have looked quite disheveled recently and we had to give DD breakfast the other day as she hadn’t eaten”
I was really shocked and kind of stumbled and said sorry what? She repeated what she’d said and then said “well I thought I’d better check, now we have made an informal note of the teachers concerns and it’s in a safeguarding file that we keep , don’t worry it isn’t shared with anyone but we keep them in case they can be used as part of a bigger picture/pattern”
I was absolutely stunned. Kids looked the same as they always did and tbh DS was wearing a new pack of polo shirts that week too.
I resigned from the governing body two weeks later and kept far away from her. Never heard another thing.
My AIBU is if I should do a request to find exactly what info they are holding about my family and if this note even exists? If this really happened why hadn’t she mentioned it before? DD swore blind she hadn’t eaten breakfast at school either...
I know it’s strange but it’s always bothered me and now she’s left I want to know. She was rather formidable and I didn’t want to whilst she was there.