In-laws not buying DS presents?

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Just that really - they live abroad (DH is from overseas) and have plenty of money and leisure (if they were poor I'd totally understand). DS is pre-school and not grabby but I feel offended for him - like they don't think he matters. Nothing for Christmas or his birthday and no excuses or cards even. It's not the presents in itself but lack of thought that makes me simmer and feel like a surly teen...!

Do they usually celebrate Christmas and birthdays? Do they buy other people presents and do they happily receive them?

Yes! And the children who live in the same country as them get plenty of presents. And I send them stuff overseas.

Would your husband be happy asking them why they buy for others but not for his child? To be honest, I wouldn't send them another thing if they're leaving your son out like that.

Agree - thank you for endorsing me! He just says that 'it's expensive to post from overseas' and looks awkward...Makes me feel like IABU but is pathetic excuse methinks.

That's rubbish. A card with £5 in would do.

Also it's not too expensive for you to post it, is it?!

That’s utter bull, I have a relative in another country who religiously sends ds presents. To avoid the postage issue she orders from a uk website for delivery and picks the giftwrap option.
If they wanted to get something to your son its not that hard 😡

Or they could send you the money and you could get it.

Will you continue to send them presents (because I wouldn't)

And they should want to send him a present. FFS he's their grandson.

He is your husband's son isn't he? Did they get him anything when he was born?

Yes but brought it in person - alongside much stress I might add. Yes, he's the grandson. FIL long dead btw but there's plenty of other family. Def not sending any more presents - thank you lovely Mumsnetters! This sort of ugly situation makes me doubt myself and feel like am being greedy - but maybe that's their intention...

It can be difficult to buy presents for a child you don't see regularly - you don't know what they like / what they already have / what they might be in to / etc, however they could ask you for a 'wishlist', or they could send you some money and ask you to get something from them.

I don't generally buy presents for my relatives abroad (including children) unless I'm going to visit. However we don't have the 'presents equal love' culture.

To be honest, I've never thought about this till your post, but I guess my in laws don't either. Also live abroad. It doesn't bother me whatsoever, because, they live abroad.
I have no idea what the get their other gc, but they live near so I guess loads more. Yabu to even think or worry about stuff like this.

I just can't imagine myself behaving like your MIL. I would get such pleasure from buying presents for my grandchildren. It's so easy nowadays to ask for a choice of links - she could send you the money and order it through Amazon, ready wrapped.

Would they get presents if you or they visited? Mine would do that, but it honestly wouldn't occur to them, nor would they know how to, send presents to a different country. Doesn't make them bad people, they're lovely in fact.