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To refuse to work with colleague

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Introvertpants · 29/01/2018 06:26

I work with different colleagues all the time but I have had the same colleague for a few weeks in a row now and I just can't work with the guy.
The guy is in his 60s and is so so slow at doing the job that I end up covering most of the slack and basically have to babysit him and do more than my fair share. It's a fast paced environment and I come shattered. If I don't do the work I end up doing unwanted overtime because the job won't get done in time and will have to carry it over the next day if I leave it

He absolutely stinks. It makes me heave. I have complained to management as it's filling me with dread going to work. They said they would talk to him.

He has problems with his speech which is a shame for him and I understand but I can't communicate with him as I have no understanding of what he is saying. It ends up with a complete awkward silence the whole time and there is no conversation what so ever. He just responds in grunts anyway.
I've just had enough now but I feel like I would come across as a bully or a nasty bitch for refusing to work with him plus it puts my work in an awkward position but I can't stand the guy. I also find him very creepy and he makes me feel very uncomfortable but obviously this isn't a valid reason to refuse to work with someone.
Aibu to refuse to work with him?

OP posts:
BhajiAllTheWay · 29/01/2018 15:54

I was going to say the same as the PP. He's been offloaded onto you because you're doing the work and no one has to address the issue.

Lizzie48 · 29/01/2018 16:10

I think if the OP hadn't mentioned his age or the fact that he had a speech impairment, or said, 'He gives me the creeps', but instead focused on how slow he was, and the hygiene issue, she would have got far fewer critical comments on here. It isn't nice to be in close proximity to someone who reeks. My DB is like that, he has serious MH issues, and I used to feel obliged to have him to stay once in a while. Once he was out of the house, I used to feel sick when going into the bedroom where he had stayed.

I would say that it's very likely that this man has some form of MH difficulty.

Passmethecakeplease · 29/01/2018 16:47

OP, whilst I do think your choice of words and phrases possibly could have been a little better I don think you're unreasonable with what you're saying.

It isn't right when one person or people in a team have to pick up the slack because someone just isn't pulling their weight. It's also not fair that you're having to work with someone whose smell is so unpleasant you're left feeling sick. Your manager really does need to wise up to these but you need to raise it in a constructive way otherwise it'll look as though you just don't like him rather than there being actual issues here.

Do not ignore any instincts that tell you you're in danger, if that's what you meant by creepy. I worked with someone in a supermarket years ago who gave me the creeps but I ignored it, it wasn't long until he orchestrated so we were stuck in a service lift together alone where he groped me until the doors opened again, I couldn't push him off. I wish I had trusted my instincts and acted on them before then.

Passmethecakeplease · 29/01/2018 16:48

Don't*

SciFiLover · 01/03/2018 15:47

@Introvertpants
Why aren't you just doing other sides of the road, it doesn't take two posties to work one side of the road together.

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