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AIBU to create an Instagram account for my baby?

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Bake · 28/01/2018 22:50

I am considering starting Instagram and Facebook accounts to post pictures of my baby along with some commentary about parenthood. My DD is 13 weeks old, and until now I have posted a few photos a week on my personal accounts. I appreciate not everyone on my friends list is at the same stage of life, and not everyone wants to look at baby pictures. I think having a separate account may be a better option so people can choose to follow it or not. I would probably make it public.

AIBU? Is there anything I should consider before starting it? Is it a bit narcissistic?

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CherryChasingDotMuncher · 28/01/2018 22:52

I hate to say this OP, but I've been there (twice) in the not-quite-sane post-baby fog so speak from experience, this is one of those things that you'll look back on in 2 years time and cringe for considering it

Chapman31 · 28/01/2018 22:54

Children under a certain age aren’t allowed Facebook accounts.

Loz604 · 28/01/2018 22:55

How often do you post pictures of her? Do you really want anyone to have access- it’s a scary world out there. More than anyone could imagine. My friend posts pictures of her twins but has a unique hashtag for them. I’d say it’s much safer spamming your friends with your DD than allowing every tom dick and harry. If your friends don’t want to see it they’ll scroll on x

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Bake · 28/01/2018 22:56

Sorry, I mean a 'Page' rather than a personal Facebook account for the baby. Like a blog page on Facebook.

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JeReviens · 28/01/2018 22:57

Who would be your target audience?

Clickncollect · 28/01/2018 22:57

One of my NCT girls has created a Facebook account for her now 19 month old DS and tags him in her (many many) pictures. I suppose it's 'to each their own' but I find it a bit odd as he hasn't asked to have his own Facebook page and I don't see why she can't keep her own records on and off Facebook.

MrsPicklesonSmythe · 28/01/2018 22:57

I think Instagram has enough smug mums but knock yourself out if it’s something you’ll enjoy doing you’re not harming anyone.

MrsPicklesonSmythe · 28/01/2018 22:58

I wouldn’t bother with a blog or Facebook page unles you’re a very good writer. There’s just too many people doing the same thing and it’s not very interesting.

SpitefulMidLifeAnimal · 28/01/2018 22:59

I am reminded of that thread the other day where the OP had her DC as her FB cover pic and someone from a group she belonged to wrote the word "cunt" on it and reposted as some sort of meme.

ChasedByBees · 28/01/2018 23:00

I wouldn’t. She should be in charge of her digital footprint and she obviously cannot consent yet.

OakIsBetterTho · 28/01/2018 23:00

Honestly, to me, it sounds utterly ridiculous, but it's not really going to harm anyone I suppose, and if it's something you feel you really want to do, why not?

LovingLola · 28/01/2018 23:00

Do not do this.
Your child has no choice about this.
These pictures will be there forever.
Respect the fact that your daughter may hate the fact that she has a digital footprint that she had no choice in making.

KERALA1 · 28/01/2018 23:02

Should you post pictures publicly of someone who can't consent?

Plus it is cringe.

SleepingKings · 28/01/2018 23:04

A page to post pictures of the baby actually sounds like a good idea - family members and friends that are interested get to see loads of pics of them without you bombarding all of your facebook friends/insta followers with him and you've got a sort of record of him growing up.

The commentary about parenthood bit sounds a bit narcissistic and wanky though

SchoolMoney · 28/01/2018 23:04

She may want to apply for jobs/meet people/do anything when she's older and not want her entire life to be accessible online. Would you have liked that if your parents did it as you were growing up?

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Bake · 28/01/2018 23:05

RE the digital footprint - surely posting photos on my personal accounts is also creating a digital footprint?
I'm not trying to be argumentative, but I am genuinely interested whether you post photos of your children on your personal accounts? Do you ask friends and family not to post photos that include your children?
I am an introvert, which is one of the reasons I am of two minds whether to do it or not. Maybe it is something I would look back on in a couple of years and cringe at.

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Yeaididthat · 28/01/2018 23:06

Its cringey

isitme88 · 28/01/2018 23:07

I have one for my kids. The account has 2 friends- my mum and my OH. It saves storage on my phone. No profile pic or any details. If any friend tries to add, I don't accept. And it's a good way to organise my pics

MakeMisogynyAHateCrime · 28/01/2018 23:08

I mean this as kindly as possible but no one wants to see your baby more than once a month on social media.

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Bake · 28/01/2018 23:08

I don't necessarily agree that someone could find the page when she is older and goes to apply for a job. I don't intend to include her name on the page, not really something that would be easily searchable...

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KERALA1 · 28/01/2018 23:08

As soon as they could understand my dds asked me not to post pictures of them online.I barely had thankfully and don't at all now.

Would you genuinely be ok with all your baby pictures being accessible to anyone? I wouldn't, my dds certainly wouldn't. It's not great parenting imo.

RicottaPancakes · 28/01/2018 23:09

You could just e-mail photos to friends and family who are interested.

Bambamber · 28/01/2018 23:09

I would absolutely not have a public account with baby pictures on.

Our family has a WhatsApp group so we can spam each other with baby pictures

LovingLola · 28/01/2018 23:10

I have no social media accounts. I do not post photos of my children.
I had this conversation recently with them (young adult, late teen). They were both passionate about the fact that so many babies, children, pre teens have absolutely no say in what is posted online about them. There seem to be no boundaries or awareness of other peoples right to privacy.

Bobbiepin · 28/01/2018 23:11

It's a bit cringe. I have very strict privacy settings on my Facebook and my Instagram page is private. If i do put up any pics of DD I don't use any hashtags so they aren't publicly accessible.