Warning - middle class problems...We had a cleaner, but being at home with a baby and have a 4yo and too much stuff in a small house, I found it really stressful. I’d spend ages tidying the night before so they could clean and then have to go out for the 2.5 hours that there were here (bc house is small!) They would generally arrive at 11 but sometimes 9, sometimes 12. None of these good for naptimes and obv baby routines change. After they accidentally left the back door open and unlocked, ripped a socket out of the wall and marked the worktop of our newly renovated home, I fired them. It was amicable.
However, now I do the cleaning myself which is much more thorough and satisfying, but I have to fit it in around baby in the week. It’s generally done every week, but sometimes it’ll be 10 days.
Husband hates it. If I ask him to take kids to the park for an hour so I can get the hoover round and clean a bathroom, he is full of resentment. He just says he wants to pay for a cleaner. Then I won’t be doing it (I rarely complain about it) but he absolutely doesn’t do a thing to clean. He does plenty around the house but no actual cleaning, as his reasoning is we should get a cleaner and he would pay.
AIBU to be pissed off when he complains massively about a bit of limescale on the tap ‘because we haven’t got a cleaner’. I clean it! I am the cleaner! That’s what happens between cleans. He is at liberty to take a scourer to it whenever he wants, but it’s beneath him, because he’d rather pay someone. I think he should try to empathise with the stress of juggling a baby and housework. Someone else coming in and buggering up the house is more stressful to me. He would never be here when they’d come or help tidy for their arrival. AIBU to not want a cleaner?