Hubby's role in the house

[Jultay]

Hi
My hubby is a HGV driver since sept 2016 working 65/70 hours a week .
I work part time .... just lately my hubby seems to resent doing anything in the house at all even though I have never expected him to .
For years I have done almost everything to keep the house running .... cleaning cooking ironing finances insure 2 cars tax them service and MOTthem . I cook his tea make his sandwiches for work . I'm sure he thinks when I'm off work I do nothing ... the other day I woke at 6am and sat down at 430pm so I am far from idle .
I never ask him to do anything apart from in the summer he does the garden and walk the dog when I'm working.
He works nights and when he gets up he expects a cup of tea done for him.
Today I have been working 9/5 and got in at 545 ... no cup of tea for me and he has now gone in a proper mood because I asked him to fetch the Chinese takeaway.
I believe he thinks because he works lots of hours he doesn't have to do anything else ... that's my job . I do not have a problem doing everything on the days I'm off work but when I am at work I expect him to help out ... AIBU here . Every now and again he also makes comments about how much he earns as though I can't be without him and his money ... I say hang on I also work and contribute ... should I stop doing as much in the house do you think ?

I think if he’s working almost double full time hours you should cut him a bit of slack. He’s working four times the hours you do, and having a cup of tea ready for him when he wakes up isn’t much of a hardship for you really. I agree that if you don’t think he’s doing enough, have a proper conversation about it. I also agree that on his days off he should be doing more to contribute. But what stopped you picking up the takeaway on your way back home?

If money isn't an issue then get a cleaner? I can see his pov though but fetching a takeaway or making a cuppa shouldn't be that big a deal. Would he want to sit back his hours so he has more leisure time?

I don't have any issue with doing what I do for him and the DD .... however my point is when I go to work and he has to do a bit he doesn't like it and sulks ... he's not speaking to me now over this .
I totally understand he is tired and would expect nothing else hence why I do what I do for him .... I just can't help thinking that he thinks because he works he has to do zero else .