Boys ski trip!!!

[Leafyhouse]

My DH has booked a boys ski holiday with his mates without agreeing it with me. We've had to cancel our family ski holiday because we can't afford it this year. We had discussed not skiing this year at length but he still managed to be peer pressured into the boys trip. I do understand it's a very first world problem, but aibu to think he should have talked it over with me before signing up?

"Boys" says it all. He doesn't have an adult's approach to finances.

How's he paying for it? He needs to take his name off the list !

So you are not able to afford a family ski holiday, but the money you could use towards a cheaper holiday is now being spent on his holiday?

That's very unfair. If you were still able to afford a family holiday then I would say YABU but as you can't, HIBU.
I would tell him that not a penny of the money he spends can come from the family's money and he had better get good at saving his pennies.

Thanks for your replies. I did have a complete paddy about it. He's had a boys ski holiday every year for about 5 years and I've always been very tolerant as I get he needs his time away from the family. But this year was meant to be all about austerity. We have some DIY bills to pay which has made us strapped for cash. It does mean our family holiday is compromised now, we'll have a cheaper camping experience. I'm sure we'll recover but I was shocked that he thought it was ok. I think he is starting to get it now. Thanks again for your reassuring messages of support.

Question - he NEEDS time away from the family?

Do you also get holiday time away from the family??? Or more importantly, time away from him?? Because he sounds like a selfish twunt to me

Lol... I love that. Selfish twunt. TBF I do get a few days away each year, which I love. I absolutely adore my family and home of course but I like some solitude and I also like be with my friends. The key difference is when I go away I go budget - either youth hostels or camping and always in the uk and always self catering. I haven't flown on my own for god knows how long, pre children and my eldest is 10. As a family we have only flown once! We always drive to ski resorts. DH is flying and not self catering. It does feel very unfair. I don't think he sees it as selfish at all. Maybe I've been too laid back about this and allowed him to get away with it. Things need to change.