To be pissed off that DP went through my phone ?

[Ihatesnowandskiing]

DP & I have been together for 2 years. I have been going through a very long & protracted divorce. Ex & I message regarding the DCs . I sent him a message before Christmas which DP knew about & then kept asking if EX had responded which at that point he hadn’t. Ex responded at some point which I didn’t even give more than a seconds thought.

Last night I went out with some friends but forgot my phone. I gave DP the passcode so he could contact my friends with my arrival time (I was travelling by train ). DP picked me up later, was all smiles, went to bed & DTD .
This morning he’s not talking to me. Then asks me ‘so he can move on in his head’ why I didn’t tell him EX had replied to my message- he’d been through my phone last night.

I am furious with him . Feel a bit violated that he didn’t say anything last night probably because he wanted to dtd.

I feel upset & pissed off with him

He won't ever trust you will he? You are happy to text ex regarding your dc as you rightly should be. Now you are either going to run every text pass him or lie - what sort of life is that?

The lack of trust would piss me off.

Change your code.

Then ask to go through his phone.

I'd sack him off.

He sounds insecure and controlling.

But you're always going to communicate with your ex about your DC.

Why on earth would you tell him about each communication? Your DP is being ridiculous.

He doesn’t sound very bright.

Presumably he can tell the time, and can understand that your ex responded after he asked you the first time.

How aeful for you. Tbh, whilst o know he shouldn't have, I can understand him going through your phone. Temptation and curiosity can get the better of people. It doesn't mean his actions were right, he shouldn't have done it, but I can understand.

HOWEVER to then use his actions to cause an argument, and to insinuate that you need to tell Him the minutiae of contacts between you and ex and that you are somehow at fault for not doing so? That's not on.

Add to that the fact that he bided his time before starting the argument to get his end away?!?! That is grim and seedy. What a creep.