To ask if I'm BU over my husbands hobbies?

[NotAnotherUserName5]

We have four young children, youngest 6 months.

He has a hobby he does one/two evenings per week, and most weekends he does competitions as part of a team. These are usually the whole day, 9-6pm or if local 11-4pm.
I'm a bit fed up of it. I'm at home with the kids, and I feel our weekends are dominated by his hobby.
Youngest is also a terrible sleeper, so I'm not getting a break.

AIBU here? He works mon-fri 9-5 and he doesn't see anything wrong with it.

I wouldn’t be ok with this. He needs to compromise and cut his hobby down to one evening a week and maybe 2-3 competitions at the weekends per month max until your children are a bit older. How would he like it if you said you were taking up a hobby and he needed to stop his to care for the children during those times?! I’m sure he’d be far from pleased

Nah, that wouldn't work for me.

I like @SpiritedLondon idea. Especially the smiling expectantly looking for dinner. Do it OP. Go on. And come back and entertain us with tell us the result

I like how posters assume that if he's got 4 kids that must be the op's decision and if he wasn't fully on board it'd be ok to opt out of parenting. Not sexist at all that!

I don't think it's fair to make him give it up now. If you'd said we aren't having child 2, 3, or 4 unless you give up X to help on weekends than it would have been fair.

What???? You think that's "not fay-errrr?" What's unfair about this is that there's a bloke doing fuck-all to help his wife bring up their kids because he's out on jollies a couple of nights a week plus a large portion of the weekend.

Jesus, there are some people out there with low standards and expectations for themselves if they really think this is OK.