To want my boobs back

[Dishwashersaurous]

I've always been average size with proportionately bigger boobs. Perfectly happy with how I looked. Clothes etc to fit. Then had two children and bf them both and my boobs have completely disappeared. They are really, really small. None of my old clothes suit or fit and I look out of proportion. So aibu to want my old boobs back and how do I make them bigger. And I feel that someone should have warned me about this before having children.

I had the same problem. Went from 32F to 30B, (but I did lose loads of weight). They did plump up again though once I'd finished breastfeeding both children. I also put weight on after the kids stopped being so active. They are not what they were but they are ok. Maybe in a year or two yours will be better too.

Happened to me to, went from 36e at my largest when bf DS3 and then about 18 months after stopping shrunk to 32a (did have accompanying weight loss) DS3 now 16 and I am pretty much back where I started before any pregnancies at a 32d however, the word perky could not be used....they will plump up again, however they will never be their former selves. It depends on what you can be happy be with with your own body.

I'm sorry you feel this way OP, I'm still breastfeeding my 16 month old and I am already dreading stopping as my boobs look so sad and droopy when dd has had a big feed and they are 'empty' and I assume this is what they will look like permanently when I stop. I used to have perfect perky C cups and never wore a bra, I'm inevitably going to be left with the horrid droopy flaps as they are an E now I'll be trapped in bras forever to hide them. I thought youth would be on my side with getting them back as I'm early twenties, but a friend who is also my age is having a boob job as she is so unhappy with her breasts after breastfeeding two babies. I never thought I'd be this vain, never thought I'd consider plastic surgery, but now I am, I don't want to feel bad about my body for the next 60 odd years. Wouldn't go back and choose not to breastfeed though, it's a sacrifice you make to do the best for your baby. Doesn't make it any less upsetting to lose your looks.

Mine grew during breast feeding. I was a B, went to a DD and settled at a C cup. I thought it was normal that mine grew as I won’t have had much mammory tissue to start with but it appears not judging by some of the responses.

Ever changing bodies are a problem. But just remember in 10 or 20 years time you will look back and probably realise it wasn’t actually that bad.

Of course I wouldn't really change my feeding decision but I really wish that I had been mentally prepared. I don't know a single person whose breasts shrunk after bf, in fact most have had larger breasts. So I just wasn't expecting it at all, and it is not mentioned anywhere. Gen everything you read is about weight gain in pregnancy. I have lots of pretty bras that I can never wear again and need to rework out what clothes suit etc. If I had known I would have tried to save up to afford new underwear.

Mine went smaller after BF but that was mainly because a lost a lot of weight as a result of BF. I'm pregnant again and they're plumping up now (along with the rest of me)! I prefer smaller boobs though - I've always been small and they suit me better!

In my opinion it’s another of those downsides to breastfeeding that it isn’t considered acceptable to publicise.. that and the fact that formula fed babies generally sleep better and are more settled.

It doesn't happen to all women who BF - mine are bigger now after two rounds of BF. It's a risk but not a given this will be the case.

OP if you feel very strongly about it, surgery is likely the best option, but agree with op you could also try some targeted muscle toning.

Eh, i have congenital symmastia, so i feel you on the wanting to feel confident in your own body and feeling surgery is the only option.

You don’t have to have had babies or breastfed for your boobs to change size either. Mine have gone from 32A in my 20s to E/F in my 50s. They are not saggy but I do use a cross trainer and kettlebell weights regularly. No idea what caused the change, whether it was all the IVF drugs or the thyroid condition I developed later. I do know it wasn’t weight gain, because it was after I’d lost weight and the DD still wasn’t fitting properly that I went and got measured and told I was an E/F.

My boobs have recovered from years of BF - DCs are 6&8. I fed them for 3 and 2 years respectively.