Background: been with DP 7 years. Don't live together but stay with each other at weekends. I have ASD, he's apparently NT but struggles if I show emotions. Not sure if he occasionally gaslights me.
I was raped when I was 9. After staying at his last night I was getting ready to come home and he had Sky news on showing the testimony of the young women assaulted by Nassar. I got very upset to the point that I nearly had a panic attack. I was sitting on the edge of the settee, shaking. He put his hand on my arm which made me jump so he took it off again and said "come here" I think he wanted me to sit back and hug him but I couldn't move. He picked his phone up and went on fb.
When I calmed myself down I told him a hug would have helped but I couldn't move. He said he didn't think I wanted one. I tried to explain that I was completely triggered by the tv and he said don't get angry with me, I didn't know you'd get so upset. I said I wasn't angry I felt traumatised.
I went home and when I was completely calm I messaged and told him that watching the young women on the tv took me back to being a scared and hurt little girl and that I could never properly explain that feeling but that he needed to be kinder to me when I get like that. I said he didn't need to answer, I just needed to tell him.
AIBU to want a little more understanding from him? And AIBU that although I told him I didn't need an answer I'm a bit put out that he's not answered!