To stop my mother calling my baby fat

[mintich]

Today my mum called my baby fat. She is very looks obsessed and critical of people's appearance.
My daughter is only 8 months, but I really don't want her growing up in a world where she is being judged by her family.
When I was younger my mum would say I was too skinny or too fat.....not sure when I was the right weight!
My mum said I'm being ridiculous. Am I?

Read the op's posts Dress, the baby is not fat. The gm though is an arse. Fat belly, sticky out ears?! I'd make a guess that you grew up with that bollox op, drip drip criticism. There would be steely glares and firm words about cutting back negative comments or you may need to remove your child from such a damaging environment.

Yeah I grew up with it too. Like I said, I'm either too skinny or too fat. I must have been the perfect weight at some point, but no, I'm too something...
I get the endearment, "look at those chubby cheeks" etc but I don't feel like that's what this was.
Maybe I'm just always on edge so one mention of the word fat and I'm on it!

@rachelrosie I need to try that rather than getting angry

Normally I would say chill, its a compliment (I have a chubby baby, he's gorgeous :) ) but in your particular case I would suggest firmly saying "mum, if you're not saying something obviously complimentary then don't say anything", over and over. If she doesn't get the message consider minimising contact with your DD especially when you aren't there.

Jesus wept RachelRosie, bingo wings on a baby? That's messed up :(

Oops I call my sisters baby a little chubster all the time but she's such a cutie
I don't mean it as a criticism

@OuchBollocks ... Glad it wasn't just me that thought that was a shocker! I worried I was been oversensitive.

@Mintich It's hard not to get angry when you've had it first hand yourself and know the damage it can do. Is it possible that DM criticises because she has self esteem issues herself. I know this the case here, so the positive reinforcements may help them to look for positive things to say rather than unkind comments which have been their go to for so long.

I think you should just call her out on it and say ‘Mum you’ve always had issues about weight and I don’t want you passing them on to my baby. It’s weird.’

Will do her good to hear the truth about what other people think of her.