Adult and child foods? A British thing?

[StandardRussian66]

I got bitched at yet again today by the group I meet with for lunch occasionally.
They find it very strange that my 3 year old eat “adult food”.
I have lived in 4 countries and have only ever come across this in Britain.
It is very strange?
Why would child’s only eat plain food?
My DD had calamari, for reference, incase that is odd. I am part Japanese so she is no stranger to fish.
Aibu to find it equally strange that some toddlers were still being fed mashed food?

Some of the pp are ridiculous.

'Normal' food

OP, I think your question was valid based on your experience

The sensible pps have highlighted that it's not just a British thing and is possibly more of a parenting thing

It isn’t showing off to buy your child a meal you can afford and the child likes

This.

However, if i was out with friends for a catchup and a lunch and someone was like 'oh DC will have calamari won't you darling' part of me would just be a bit 'ok... what do you want, a medal?'

Plus given the price if calamari and assuming it was an adult portion then I'd certainly feel a bit like it was a 'look at how great i am because my child eats calamari' and wonder why you'd buy an adult sized portion for a child of 3 othet than to prove what a great eater your child is

This is bananas. Why are people on here so insecure, and so weirdly, fuckeduply competitive?

And so defensive. That a question from someone who’s not from here about, is taken as criticism of Britain and parenting.

oh DC will have calamari won't you darling

Who even talks like that?

I said
“What do you want”
“Fish”
“There is cod, salmon, squids or fish fingers”
“Squid”
“Ok”

Just normal conversation I think??

Sounds normal to me, yes :)

Very normal.

and someone was like 'oh DC will have calamari won't you darling' part of me would just be a bit 'ok... what do you want, a medal?'
But what if they didn't say it like that? What if they just said, "Calamari and chips, please"?
I'm English but in Oz. Calamari and chips is normal pub grub. Just frozen in batter and they chuck it in the deep fryer. Nothing posh about it. Kids eat it all the time - probably don't even know it's squid.

It seems like some people have jumped on your Japanese ancestry, imagined food a bit further out of their comfort zone, rather than something quite similar to nuggets and chips, and got all uncomfortable and imagined performance braggy parenting.
If you were out with me and hesitated to order something, I'd say eat what you like!

My kids have always liked calamari, because it’s a battered, deep fried, beige food. It’s the fish equivalent of an onion ring.

Incidentally, onion rings seem to be the exception to DS2’s ‘onions are the work if the devil’ principle in food (unless of course he can’t see them and, therefore, doesn’t know they’re their). Battering and deep frying clearly have magical properties, because suddenly onions become delicious things he’ll eat loads of.

Exactly!!

It seems like some people have jumped on your Japanese ancestry, imagined food a bit further out of their comfort zone, rather than something quite similar to nuggets and chips, and got all uncomfortable and imagined performance braggy parenting.

It does, rather.

And furthermore, that if somebody of non-British heritage is thought to be feeding their child a "non-British normal" food (but outside the comfort zone of "British normal" food) that some posters nevertheless get all uncomfortable and imagine said performance braggy parenting.

StandardRussian66
If that was the conversation then totally normal.

I felt there was an undertone to your post of 'my child clearly eats better than theirs/i feed my child proper/better food than them'.

I don’t see how when I had said that I do not see a difference between a chicken nugget and a calamari. Is just food.

I agree it's food but reference to comparisons between your child and another child seems a bit not competative as such but a sense of 'my food is better'.

Maybe i misread the tone though, just i can think of a few people I know who are a bit like that.

I haven't read all 13 pages but my point would be ...
why the fuck are you hanging out with these bitches? Are they really good friends and you've just put it across badly?
I'd never eat with people who spoke to me like that

My daughter is friend with their children. She does not see them often, so I go.
I don’t care. Nothing upsets me I just wonder why there is a line with foods to some people.

Nofunkingworriesmate
To be honest it's more expressing their view on food than bitching.

I love cheesebaords with soft cheeses. One of my friends without fail says 'ewww why don't you just be normal and have cake'.
It's not bitchinh

I put baked beans on top of my work canteen lunch every day ( done since I got pregnant and felt I needed the protein) it would become boring if people mentioned it every time

Calamari is dusted and deep fried - basically a chewy nugget. I too had a child that ate everything at 3 and at 5 is now limiting their repertoire rapidly. You have no control and if you comment about your current fortune you will sound like a twat.

champagne I do not understand your comment?

They're probably just jealous (as am I!) 😉😁

Goodness, what’s with the uncalled-for nastiness Champagne?

I think what champagne is suggestingthat any parent who makes a song and dance about how their child is a better eater than others/ has more refined tasted than others their age etc is potentially going to rub people up the wrong way and their luck could easily change.

since this thread was started, I have really been craving some nice calamari.
Done Greek style, in flour, with all the little extra squiddy bits, not just rings....lots and lots of lemon juice... lovely..