To take a 3 month old to a funeral

[Abneyandteal19]

Need to go from Edinburgh to London for a family funeral sadly. Have a 3 month old baby that I have never left for long and feel uncomfortable doing so, she is FF so it’s possible to leave her but don’t want to, AIBU to take her to London for essentially 24hrs on a plane (maybe even less) to attend funeral? Do you think this amount of travelling is unfair on such a small baby? Or is it better for her to be with me (and lessen my anxiety etc)

In my experience if children or any other group are unwelcome to a funeral it would be made clear when you're invited/notified.

This came up last week on another thread (although more about toddlers than very small babies) and I am still concerned at the notion that a baby or child will lighten the atmosphere of a funeral. That's such a supposition to make, and people who are upset by it probably won't say anything. Funerals are a place where you can feel sadness and express grief - they are not meant to be either "show and tell" of a child, or even somewhere that needs "lightening up".

If you have to take a child to a solemn occasion like this, I think you need to be super-sensitive to the feelings of other people and act accordingly.

Yanbu- my ds is 2.4 and I've never left him for more than 2 hrs to attend hospital appointments and that was only I'm last fortnight

Sadly I've been to a few babies funerals recently. The happiest was when a child's song was played at one and the baby was giggling along to it