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Original poster

to have fibbed to a poorly 20 month old that it's still night time?

37 replies

HeavyMetalMummy · 27/01/2018 08:02

Not AIBU in the usual sense. Just want to see what most would do in this situation. 20mo dd has had a temperature of 38.6 for the last couple of days. It's not rising, she's been snacking on food rather than proper meals and drinking lots of fluids. But is noticeably not herself. So, this morning after a disturbed night with calpol having been given etc, when she stirred at 6:30 I told her it was still night time and gave her a bottle of milk (keeping her hydrated) she is still asleep now. Should I have just gotten her up when she first thought she wanted to? I don't know if what I did was in her best interests or not.

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wowbutter · 27/01/2018 08:03

You did the right thing.

maddiemookins16mum · 27/01/2018 08:04

YANBU. Let her sleep and get thee on the sofa with tea, toast and MN for an hour.

daydreambelieving · 27/01/2018 08:06

You are over thinking this! Of course this is okay. Even without your little one being unwell I would STILL be telling them it's still night time at half 6!! You and your baby need your sleep moreso because she's unwell.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 27/01/2018 08:06

I'd have done the same. (Well, I'd try, but unfortunately dds internal clock is super accurate, she'd never fall for it unfortunately!)

EnglishRose13 · 27/01/2018 08:06

She needs her sleep. You did the right thing.

I hope she feels better soon

furryelephant · 27/01/2018 08:06

I try and tell my DD it’s night time if it’s anything before 8am and she’s not even poorly GrinI’m sure the extra sleep will help her recover quicker. And you need it too! Extra sleep definitely won’t do her any harmSmile

ParadiseLaundry · 27/01/2018 08:06

YANBU. Sleep is the best thing for her. And I'm sure she wouldn't have gone back to sleep if she didn't need it.

Batteriesallgone · 27/01/2018 08:07

You followed your instincts to get her back to sleep. When caring for a poorly child it’s important to trust your instincts rather than try and stick to a routine IMO.

The ‘fib’ isn’t going to have any lasting consequences, don’t worry about it.

flowersWB · 27/01/2018 08:08

Neither of my DC would ever fall for that! Enjoy the peace while you can!

Sweetpotatoaddict · 27/01/2018 08:09

Sleep and fluids the best thing for her!
Yanbu parenting rules go out the window when they are unwell, just do whatever keeps them comfortable and recover.
Hope she’s better soon

BillywilliamV · 27/01/2018 08:10

Its 8am on a Saturday morning, it is still nighttime!

unhingedtoday · 27/01/2018 08:10

Absolutely fine. I do this with my 4 year old all the time! He's not usually an early riser, so when he does wake early I tell him it's still nighttime and to go back to sleep. Works about 50% of the time.
This morning it did not work. After a bad night with his first ever night terror and temp up and down, I thought he would have a lovely lie in! Alas no, he was awake at 6 Hmm

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HeavyMetalMummy · 27/01/2018 08:12

Oh good, glad I wasn't being daft about getting her to go back to sleep. Plus it's bought me a bit of time free from the horror of 'piggle' (iggle bastard piggle from in the night garden) that show will inevitably be demanded upon her rising, on repeat for the rest of the day.

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pilates · 27/01/2018 08:12

Yes definitely in her best interest. I always feel that sleeping helps the recovery process.
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marcopront · 27/01/2018 08:13

What about saying it is still sleeping time rather than it is still night time?

heffalump12 · 27/01/2018 08:15

Definitely overthinking. "It's still nighttime" is my stock response to DC waking me up no matter what time it is, and they're in perfect health.

Inevitably answered with: "but I can see light through the curtains mummy!!" While bouncing on my head

Rewn7 · 27/01/2018 08:20

Sleep is the best medicine. You did the right thing for sure.

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HeavyMetalMummy · 27/01/2018 08:22

Fortunately even when well, she can't engage in head bouncing. She's still contained within her cot. The second we get her a big girl bed we're done for.

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BertrandRussell · 27/01/2018 08:25

It’ so OK and normal that I don’t actually understand the question! Are you bothered about disrupting her sleep patterns or about the morality of telling her it’s night when it isn’t?

hidinginthenightgarden · 27/01/2018 08:29

Absolutely fine, she obviously needed more sleep or she would have woken by now.

I tired the same with my two this morning but it didn't work.

Madonnasmum · 27/01/2018 08:31

I used that line when they went even ill! Sleep is good for you ill or not. If her body hadn't needed it she wouldn't have dropped back off.

Tipsntoes · 27/01/2018 08:32

If it worked, even if she wasn't ill it was the right thing to do.

If she's asleep, the sleep is doing her good.

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HeavyMetalMummy · 27/01/2018 08:35

It's both Bert, dd is my first and only dc so I'm just looking at whether others would have done it differently. As others have said I know she isn't going to get up and point an accusing finger at me for lying. But I still felt like I was cheating her out of her morning and possibly setting her up for a crappier, more tired day later on.

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stayathomer · 27/01/2018 08:36

Barely, barely a fib and done for her own good. She needed the sleep. Take care of yourselves x

MrsGrindah · 27/01/2018 08:38

Honestly I say this to my DH! He’s an erratic sleeper and sometimes wants to use his iPad at say 5am and I say “ No. It’s still night time. Go to sleep”!

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