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My husband has gone potty!

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RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 00:48

He's been out for the night... left at 1pm and got back at 12ish. The communication between me and DH tonight has left me baffled!

I got a iMessage at 9:45 that just reads "cheers" and I few moments later a notification of a missed call. I roll my eyes as I don't get signal on my mobile at home (as he knows) and he could have rung the land line or my work mobile, but noooo.

I send him an iMessage: "what's up?"
DH: "Jesus man!"
DH: "I need your help!"

Now I'm worried something has happened... so I call him using the landline. He doesn't answer. Then shortly after I get an FaceTime audio from him. I immediately start with, "are you ok, what's happened?"

He replies, "yes, yes... where is my train?"
Me: "is anything wrong?" (My inner thoughts wondering if one of his friends is hurt or if there's been a fight, has he been mugged?!)
DH: "yes I want to get on the train and I can't see the board thingy."
Me: " you had me really worried over train times?!"
DH: "for f**k sake. Just tell me what platform."
Me: (half joking... ok maybe 1/4 joking) "I'm not telling you anything if you talk to me like that."
DH: "great thanks for that."

Then he hangs up!!! Shock so at this point I wanna let him figure it out for himself, but I'm not that mean so I text him the times. I get 1 word replies. Ask if I've done a something wrong... I haven't. But he is acting really strange.

He gets home, we have a bit of back and forth about his phone manners and my epic work load I had on today that he did nothing to help by going out and deciding not to come back much later than expected, leaving me with a large pile of work and a toddler to look after... I'm a bit miffed about it tbh, it's been a stressful day and I'm worried because I was rather late on my deadline, but not much to be done about it now.

He decides I'm being mellow dramatic, I point out that miiigggghhhtttt be him and he has enough of it all and goes to bed.

I follow him up the talk continues. Then he says something that nearly breaks my heart. "I just wish you were more supportive of me"

ShockSad

Do I not do enough around the house? Have I not been asking him enough about work or celebrating his achievements? Am I not for-filling his emotional support needs?!

I push further to see how and why and he says: "well if you were in London today I would have been more supportive."

"What?" I ask.

"Well I needed you to find the train and you couldn't even answer the phone. I had no support"

I kid you not mums net!

"I have not got signal here." I reply.

"Good point." He admits.

"And when I did get though I was really worried about you. I thought you needed actual support."

"I'm just saying you weren't supportive and I would have been if it was you."

"How could I be supportive if I don't even know your phoning me? You're being an ass hole."

Then he storms off. Saying that he doesn't need this.

He has currently taken himself to the spare bedroom and is cuddling the dog!!!!

I love him, but the booze has made him potty Grin😂😂😂

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hiphopchick · 27/01/2018 00:51
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RemainOptimistic · 27/01/2018 00:54

I'm not getting how any of this is funny. He fucked off to get pissed, leaving you in the lurch, then was so drunk he was struggling to catch a train home, and when he did get home started an argument with you? Is he always this much of an immature and unpleasant man child?

ciaa · 27/01/2018 00:55

He was very drunk, wasn't he? Please enjoy making fun of him in the morning by describing his behaviour to him in great detail over breakfast. He might then think twice about consuming so much in future...

(I'm sure many MNers will come on here all judgy and LTB, but who hasn't had a bit too much to drink, made an arse of themselves, and had a bit of the alcohol-induced paranoid needies?)

RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 00:57

Yes Ciaa,

I'm really going to enjoy explaining all this to him tomorrow 😂😂😂

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Addy2 · 27/01/2018 00:57

I'd wait for sobriety to arrive and then try again. Hopefully he will see more clearly in the morning.

CillitBangYouCompleteMe · 27/01/2018 00:58

'Potty' wouldn't be how I described that kind of behaviour.

RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 01:00

He's been on a 'butter beer' cocktail apparently.

I mainly feel sorry for the dog right now Grin

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Whiterabbitears · 27/01/2018 01:02

I don't think he sounds funny either, he sounds a bit of a wanker. You've a got a real child to look after not a grown man. I can't stand men like this who hold their wives responsible for everything including their own stupid drunken behaviour, why are you responsible for him getting home by train? I would ignore him and let him sulk.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 27/01/2018 01:03

Why did you type that massive steam of consciousness post
I think you’re both a bit crackers
I see no value in raising this in morning.other than to Mercilessly take the piss

RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 01:04

Don't take this thread too seriously!

It is the booze talking. He is acting a complete wanker, but he's not actually one.

Wink
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RestingButchFace · 27/01/2018 01:05

He was a dick. You told him and he accused you of being melodramatic ? All his fault. You may not fulfil the needs his drunk self believes he should but he just sounds like a drunken fool. Not malicious or abusive . If this was me I would just play back voicemail and show him the text messages and make him cringe tomorrow. Hope you get some sleep.

MiddleClassProblem · 27/01/2018 01:06

Sounds like he got really anxious about the train situation but may not realise that he has anxiety.

As an anxiety sufferer I can vouch, we’re not a rational bunch and being mardy can often be part of the bargain too.

RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 01:08

Thanks for the insight Middle! He is anxiety free, and we know this for fact.

So don't worry about him he's just being a drunken plonker. Smile

Much love x

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IkeaGrinch · 27/01/2018 01:09

He decides I'm being mellow dramatic

I’m just getting this awesome mental image of a completely pissed person moaning in a slurry voice about someone being mellow dramatic. ;-)

RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 01:09

You'd be spot on Ikea 😂

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MiddleClassProblem · 27/01/2018 01:09

Just curious how you know that for a fact?

Sorry you have a drunken plonker in the house!

DreamyMcDreamy · 27/01/2018 01:09

On the "I can't see the board thingy" I'd have rolled my eyes at the drunken div and texted him the details myself.
I'd have mentioned phone manners too.
The rest of it sounds like drunken rambling about the meaning and point of life that always seems dead serious after a few drinks but the next morning is all WTAF was I on about lol

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 27/01/2018 01:11

Lets be clear, post about your man being drunk & emotional= LTB.DICK,etc
What do you think folk will say?Ach, bless. He’s a one isn’t he

RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 01:11

Hey Middle.

He just needs glasses and won't were them so couldn't see the board. And was probably too drunk to see straight.
🙄

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AcrossthePond55 · 27/01/2018 01:13

I hate man-drunk. But couldja get the recipe for that Butterbeer cocktail? Sounds yum.

RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 01:14

I didn't think of that, the cocktail does sound yum. Apparently after the second he was pissed, so I'm guessing they might need turning down a bit

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RunLillian88 · 27/01/2018 12:31

He comes down stairs this morning and in one breath says, "good morning honey, I'm so sorry about last night, I wasn't myself, please don't be too mad at me!"

So funny bless him.

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LipstickHandbagCoffee · 27/01/2018 12:35

Not sure why your posting updates on an inane convo and your drunk dp night out
You think it’s all funny and ach bless. So that’s that really

Foggymist · 27/01/2018 12:36

I'm loving mellow dramatic and for-filling!

DeStijl · 27/01/2018 12:38

Mellow dramatic is the only thing I like about this post.
Fun.

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