To go to bed when husband in a&e?

[Bingbongband]

About 5 hours ago husband went to a&e.

He suddenly got a big black area in the middle of his vision. He has been having visual issues and was due to see a specialist next month but it's got worse the last few days and the black spot is new today. Oddly, he's ready to go to a&e for a cold wheras an arm has to be falling off for me to suggest going but I practically had to force him into the taxi!

Child in bed so I couldn't go and he is by himself.

Anyway, Friday night a&e... I do think he needs to be there but he's unlikely to be prioritised.

Obviously I'm concerned but I'm exhausted. Would I be awful if I went to bed? I'd have my phone turned on next to me. I can't do anything. I can't even speak to him as his phone will be off.

I feel bad about him being there by himself but no childcare.

Go to bed and keep your phone with you, I'd be surprised if ophthalmology were there before 9am to review him.

Also, I'd advise against people in this thread trying to diagnose him from a grand old two sentences of history...

Go to bed and try and sleep you can't do anything tonight and there is no point both of you being exhausted tomorrow!

Why would his phone be off, you have been allowed mobiles in hospitals for many years.

Get some rest. No point sat waiting as it could be hours.

I’d be far too concerned to sleep. Not that a lack of sleep is going to help anyone.

DH must be petrified.

My money is on occular migraine. You can get large blind spots and visual distortions with no headache.

Go to sleep. You can't help him by staying awake.

I agree. In an ideal world, it might be nice to be there but if you don't have childcare and can't be there, then the right thing to do is make sure one of you gets some rest and isn't just idly hanging around worrying.

I would suggest you pack an overnight bag and a larger bag for him, for possible short or longer stays. That way, if you need to go to him urgently, you can bring him his toiletries, fresh towel, change of clothes or PJs. Then go to sleep, with your phone fully charged and on loud.

People who faff about uselessly in a crisis, contributing nothing more than another exhausted person, really annoy me. You sound like a sensible person, you can't be with him so you are definitely right to prioritise rest. Maybe a short phone call to say good night, as he may not be able to read a text if he has had dilating drops or his condition has worsened.

It does sound scary, I hope he is ok. Please rest as well as you can.

Thank you everyone.
Childcare really isn't an option. I wish we could just call up someone. :(
As for friends, I only have his brother's number and he ignores texts and doesn't answer his phone to me (no issue, he pretty much ignores everyone). Husband would call someone if he wanted them although he tends to prefer to do stuff like this by himself anyway.
He's sent me a text saying "hi". Nothing else! So I guess he's still waiting I've texted him back and I've told him I've got my phone with me so keep in touch.
He'll be in bed most of tomorrow now I'm guessing so I will need to get some sleep.
Detatched retina was one possibility but dr google so who knows.
Thanks all.

No chance it's a migraine?

Hope you get sorted & get some sleep.

Don't beat yourself up. You can't speed up his medical treatment simply by being there, and getting him diagnosed is the main thing. For context, (and I am not a medic and not proclaiming), the same thing happened to my husband, who took himself to the GP. Fast forward - he has eye "floaters", and has, via the GP, been trained how to deal with them and when to seek help if a detached retina is a possibility (which it is, rarely, with this thing). Drop a text, sleep.

Eye problems can be are serious but it's not like it's going to be life threatening. Look after your DC and get some sleep.

Thanks everyone. They kept him in and he is having a scan this morning.
They suspect it's macular degegeneration. :/

I wish him well, keep us posted.