Okay so we are currently trying for DC2.
We have DS1 who is very needy, he’s 2 and I am a SAHM, he’s very mummy oriented, he won’t sleep in his own bed for a full night he has to come in with us every night from the middle of the night (we coslept for 2 full years)
Sex is very hard
A background about me - my first sexual experience unfortunately wasn’t consensual, I then went on to lead a very promiscuous and adventurous sex life with random people. DH is my first loving sexual relationship and we have always had a very active sex life, it’s gone from 5 times a night, to every night when I was PG, to twice a week because of sleepless nights and now it’s all about trying for another. I feel like the spontaneity has gone.
I used to be really skinny and have put on 4 stone since having DS and having post natal depression, currently on slimming world to lose it all
Currently working through issues from the first sexual relationship I had that wasn’t what I would have liked obviously. And also body image issue.
Ideas to spice things up in the bedroom? I hate cringe stuff like role play but love the dom / sub sort of stuff however DH isn’t really into it.