To think crying over a puppy snapping at your heels is a bit pathetic?

[outofthefryingpan]

We have a 7 month old pup. A small breed which will never grow higher that knee height. A friend came round unexpectedly with her 9 yo boy and because husband thought it was our daughter he let the pup down to greet her when he opened the door.

Pup ran outside and started snapping at ankles of the 9yo boy. Pup chased him a bit until husband managed to pick him up. Boy crying hysterically in floods of tears. Mother (friend) then storms off in a huff and apparently then arrives home herself in tears. Friend’s husband then demands we “do something about that dog”.
I’ve apologised profusely but they’re still all really upset about it. AIBU to think they’re being a bit pathetic about it? They’re good friends and I really value our relationship as I’ve always thought of them as really sensible people. Can’t believe the drama over this 5 second incident! I could understand it if it was a big dog but honestly- it’s tiny!

I suppose if you’re not used to dogs you don’t know how to deal with them but am I really BU to think it’s a daft drama over nothing?

yabu
I would have cried if I were chased and bitten by a dog.
if I were your friend I would report this incident to the dog warden/police.
your dog was out of control.
train it properly.

and apologise to your frieend and her dc.

In fact I still have scars on my ankles from it 😂

You are definitely not being unfair op, they visited your home, they presumably knew you had a playful puppy who is still learning social skills. Both Mother an child were a little over the top to say the least. I’m speaking as an owner of a wiry Jack Russell and a huge 6 month old Rottweiler pup. My Jack is fully trained but the pup is still in training, do people really think a pup can be fully trained by 7 months old??

I was bitten by a dog when I was about 5/6 and I've been terrified ever since. I HATE HATE HATE when out in public and a dog runs over to me and is jumping up etc and I'm visibly scared and it's owner says "it's just being friendly". So WHAT. If I'm scared, I'm scared.

And I think a NINE YEAR OLD has every right to be a bit frightened as do his parents. I certainly wouldn't want to see my child distressed and see my friends not give a damn. It's not pathetic and you're unreasonable.

OP Where have you gone?! YABU.
I have never had a dog and my friends / family are not dog owners YET, the DC and I have experienced other people's dogs bounding up to us, running around our feet, We've had them jump up at us (dirty feet on our coat ) barking at us...

When will dog owners realise that other people hate this? It's just NOT ok. I don't care how much 'fun' your 'friendly' dog is having. We REALLY don't like your dog.

Maybe I should start sending my 'fun loving' children over to random dog loving strangers ... I wonder what reaction I'd get?!

Jeez definitely not pathetic. Especially at 9 but even as an adult it can be scary if you already have a fear or even if not. My 7 year old went through a petrified phase very recently because of one dog jumping up at her (was a medium sized dog though) she would get hysterical if a dog was even passing us on the street. She wouldn’t even walk with her best friend and her mum with their tiny pup because he’s a bit yappy still. You don’t sound like a very nice person to be honest and certainly not a responsible dog owner. A responsible dog owner would be aware that not everyone likes dogs and control or sympathise.

do people really think a pup can be fully trained by 7 months old??

a 7 month old puppy looks like a grown up dog.
so yes I would expect it to be trained. the very least I would expect is the dog being under clise control so incidents like this can't happen in the first place.

A 9 year old being afraid if a dog trying to bite him is a "snowflake". How bloody ridiculous. A dog can injure, a dog can kill. That is like saying someone is " a snowflake " because they show fear towards a car hurtling towards them. Stop trying to appear as so laid back and easy going. Behave like a responsible and compassionate human being.

Yep. Pathetic response. You are well rid of these drama queens

You didn't look to see who was there and let your dog start 'snapping' at a child?
That's awful, no wonder they're upset.

Haha that's hilarious!

I agree, how pathetic

You need t teach your dog how to act around children. A dog nice chased my son down on a playing field when he was 9 and left him with a fear of dogs. I was there, my son was minding his own business playing. You don't want your dog to turn into that kind of dog so do something now. I know 9 year olds look very grown up but in reality they are still young children, respect that and control your dog.

However, as the owner of three dangerous, biting, vicious snarling beasts I find that it's only on MN that this level of hysteria and frothing towards dogs exist. In the real world dogs and humans do exist perfectly well. Thank god.

must go back to hiding any thread with dog in the title

The thing is, some people just really, really don't like dogs. Any dogs.

In that case, they're a bit silly to turn up unannounced at someone's house when they have a puppy.

right, i'm not a dog person because i think they are unhygienic. very sorry if that offends!

why do dog owners assume that other people dont mind their dogs rubbing over, jumping up on and sniffing around them?

im not a hysterical person by the way.

in answer to your question, you are unreasonable to think the 9 year old was pathetic.

@zeezek

Anything involving dogs and adults receiving gifts seem to instigate an outbreak of mass hysteria

Ugandanknuckles - shit. I like to celebrate my birthday as well and receive GIFTS from my family

You sound too ignorant to be a dog owner to be honest. This attitude is exactly why many people are anti dogs.

Would you react the same if another child was chasing yours & trying to bite them?

YABVVVVU!

Nipped by Jack R age 45 (me not dog !)

KICKS IT INTO THE MIDDLE OF NEXT WEEK? really?

Puppies bite, they grow out of it. Nothing irresponsible about letting a puppy be a puppy.
So thats totally normal isnt it? That you think its ok,its not been irresponsible that a puppy bites? With sharp teeth.** No nothing wrong?
Seriously it dosent matter if its a child or a fully grown adult that ur dog is snapping at. control ur dogs ffs.**

It's not even clear if the friends knew OP had a dog, if she hadn't seen them for a while. Even if they did know, if they are not particularly used to dogs, it might not have occurred to them that OP's dog would be an aggressive little shit.

A good hard kick to a dog that is attacking you or your DC is a valid (and entirely legal) response, even if it seriously injures or kills the dog. Bit rough on the dog, but it's the owner to blame, not the person defending themself or DC.

Its thanks to your kind of dog owner that my son was terrified of dogs for years.
"Its only a puppy"
Puppies have sharp teeth and claws and it hurts when you get nipped and raked by claws.
I dont care a stuff how cute You think your puppy is just dont let it go biting other people its really that simple.

Btw we arent anti dog and would gladly have a dog now but LL wont allow it. I have had dogs in past myself.

But i wouldnt end a friendship over this one incident. I would explain my ds is terrified of dogs and got a fright and make sure i called before future visits to make sure he could be introduced to dog in a controlled safe situation. However if you were unable to train your dog out of this behaviour i wouldnt be back to your house.

Get a dog trainer, apologise to your friends and tell them the situation is now being dealt with.
Yabu for sure.