Is it just hormones?

[Gemlou1989]

Hi all!
So I found out I'm pregnant again after an early MC last time so wanted to keep the news low key until my first scan (I'm 9 weeks) However I was pressured into telling close family and friends as I've been unwell and they all think I've been avoiding them etc.
My problem is that my Mum and one of my close friends were specifically told not to tell anyone but they have both blabbed...again! Telling everyone willy nilly My last pregnancy my Mum told my grandparents "by accident" within 10 minutes of being told, before I had any sort of chance, leaving me to then have to break the news I had MC so surely she'd know I didn't want to have to put them through it again. Her first words were...when can I tell everyone? ....they are major gossips but surely a bit of respect for my wishes isnt hard.
AIBU to be upset because I knew the chances they'd blab? I just feel hormonal and a bit upset and feel like giving them a piece of my mind!
This isn't my first DC but it's surely still MY happy news regardless.
P.'s. ...I think I'm turning into a moaning fishwife

No you are not being unreasonable ! Some people just have such empty lives that they use rampant gossiping as a bloody currency and can be incredibly insensitive and stupid. Have you explained to them how damaging and private a miscarriage is and explained that their involvement in things is directly correlated to how discreet they are? Ie Fair warning if you can’t keep a secret i’ll Just shut you out.

My dH’s Dad and sister are rampant out of control gossips and we just don’t tell them anything. They found out we were pregnant when I was about 16 weeks and since then they’ve had one word answers about how it’s going. Otherwise what you say Just percolates around and round family and eventually comes back from some random cousin 6 months later utterly garbled. It drives me mad.

It's awful! I'm a 'take secrets to the grave...not my news to tell" sort of person so I don't understand why they feel the need! My Mum probably sees my kids once a year, and she only lives 1hr away so she not actually bothered about the baby it's just she wants to tell everyone first! She won't be one of the first to find out I've given birth that's for sure
Thank you for replying