Hi guys. Im currently 8/9 weeks pregant and feeling very low. Altho actively trying to conceive for the last year my DP was very quiet when we got the positive test. He shows little interest in it and has actually said the age gap between our children will be too much (will be 5 years). All this is making me sad but i do hope his attitude wil change as he is a fantastic father to our DS. Anyway he changed job in Nov due to redundancy. He is now in a white collar job and enjoyed going out and buying smart clothing etc. He takes longer to groom in the morning. Fair enough hes got toclook the part. Hes started going to the gym 3 nights a week and getting regular haircuts etc. Again i wasnt concerned as we both put on the podge over christmas. But yesterday he informed me he was going out after work for a drink for a leaving do party. I asked did he want tea he didn't answer. I texted today and asked again as i meal plan for the week and like to be orgainised. He texted back. Had a big lunch so ok. Ill see you when i see you. Im not usually a nag hassling him for e.t.a etc. But i fancied the gym tonight with a friend so cant tell her a time i can be ready.... if at all. Im just finding his lack of telling me things really disrespectful. Also he is hanging out with 20 somethings. We are both 40! I think hes loving his new worklife and friends. Meanwhile im a fat frumpy mess who isnt happy in my workplace at the minute. So im asking the people of mumsnet am i being unreasonable in wanting to know what my DP is up to?