To go away as a couple for Christmas break?

[CurlyRover]

DP and I both hate Christmas due to various family issues. This year was utter shite. DSD always spends Christmas with her Mum- DP isn't allowed her Christmas day and DSD would not want to give up the days she currently has - Christmas at grandma's is a huge deal with all her cousins that are the same age etc. DP has spoken to her about Christmas and at the moment she'd rather not spend it with us. It's sad but I can sort of understand from a 6 year olds perspective.

Anyway, would we BU to book a trip away from the 22nd to 29th just the two of us (they only take bookings for Saturday to Saturday) and do Christmas with DSD upon her return?

When do you usually have her?

So you’re making a booking for 11 month’s time? Would you normally have his daughter during that period?

Every other weekend and Christmas eve.

TheStoic
Yes so he would have to clear it with his ex first so if agreed we'd have her from the 29th through to new years eve and day instead of Christmas eve

Do what you like but you need to stick to the agreed times and weekends that you have DSD. If my ex decided he was just going away for a week and not sticking to what was arranged in terms of my children I'd be very pissed off and they'd be upset!

Explain how it would work to your partner’s daughter and see what she thinks. If she’d be upset not to spend Xmas eve with her dad, he shouldn’t go away.

If my ex decided he was just going away for a week and not sticking to what was arranged in terms of my children I'd be very pissed off and they'd be upset!

Sanch I agree if he just did it without discussion . But surely there's some give and take in co-parenting. His ex frequently goes off to various different things and just demands we have DSD without any discussion.

DP would of course speak to his ex first before we book anything as I quite agree it'd be rude and unfair to just categorically decide he's not having her