AIBU to tell cold callers to fuck off

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Just that really.........my lounge is on the first floor and I sit by balcony doors. I see 3 very pound people approach the very small cul de sac. They appear drunk. Giggling and falling over each other. They were bery loud and Silly, then saw they had lanyards and assumed drunken office do. Then I hear my door bell bong several times so I opened the door and called down. Conversation goes.....

Me..Hello can I help you
Woman..Oh hi we are collecting for British Heart Foundation.
Me..Ummmm sorry but it's a bit late to be calling.
Woman..we can call till gone 9 if we like.
Me..Oh only I have 2 babies and they're now awake as you rang the bell several times.
Woman..I'm not psychic love.
Me..please lease my children are now awake and crying.
Woman..you're gonna allow children to die if you don't sign up.......(she then rang the bell again)
Me..what are you doing..please leave
Woman..ding ding
Me..Just fuck off please
Woman..I'm phoning the police as that's harassment. [confused
Me..umm you're harassing me fuck off
I close the door. They all stand outside and shout abuse and say they're calling police. They stick fingers up. I do too.
They knock on the door several times and then leave their card with a sarcastic rude face.
Wtf. Please tell me. AIBU Or is this normal.

We had a spate of this a few years back when my youngest was a few months old and just starting to actually sleep in the evenings. BHF and Cancer Research taking it in turns, always around 9pm when I'd finally got the baby to sleep, always hammering on the door.

Polite notes didn't work. Shitty notes didn't work. Ignoring them didn't with.

Ended up going slightly postal one evening when they woke up the baby yet again. I'm ashamed to say that I screamed them, there was a fair bit of swearing. I think J started crying (DD SCREAMING upstairs) and told them again that i already sodding donated to cancer research and why can't they just leave me the fuck alone!

They did, after that

(I had PND, btw. I don't normally cry because someone knocks on my door, but I was sleep deprived and this was ridiculous. It was almost every night for 3 weeks)

Chuggers at the door should be fucking banned. Seriously just how can it be legal for random strangers to turn up on your doorstep asking for your bank details. The ones we’ve had wouldn’t even leave details so we could consider it. It was give us your bank details right now, or it proves you don’t care about cancer/animals/children/ whatever.

Given that you’d told them nicely and they refused to take no for an answer YANBU

and yes, complain to the charity they represent.

I complained to a charity who had people knocking really late and also waking my baby. They put me on a list to say don't call again.

Btw If they had behaved like that I would have told them to fuck off too.

Police if they continue at the door and BHF complaint via Twitter.

I won’t stand for this shit at all. I try and be polite but say ‘I’m sorry, I don’t donate at my door thank you’. Any attempt at shaming me (such as ‘yes I bet you don’t donate at all..’ ) gets a ‘and you’ve just demonstrated why’ as I shut the door. I’ve complained to LOADS of charities as I totally disagree with this type of fundraising and I never donate to anyone who comes to my door. .

As a student I worked as a chugger. I hated it but we weren't allowed to knock that late and I never would have talk to someone like that. However it's a shitty shitty job! Have a bit of sympathy!

Tell them you will need to see their id and to post it through the door. You then have their name for complaining.

If you choose to not return it to them they are fucked as they can’t work without it!

Nothing odd about not answering the door.
There's no obligation to do so - quite the opposite, there's far more of an obligation for people to try to avoid imposing themselves on you in the first place.

Your home is supposed to be a place of safety and tranquility and long may it reign!

Loads of charities cold call on the phone too, especially if you've donated in that past as we have. I find it abhorrent and immediately makes me reluctant to give again. I usually come round though, as I'm supporting the cause, not the idiots collecting on behalf of it.

For anybody who works at home, they'll understand how disruptive door knockers can be!

I would be tweeting bhf myself.

Keep a bucket of water handy for next time.

No i regularly tell them too

Another weirdo here who doesn't answer the door to just anyone! Wow that is absolutely awful OP. I would definitely contact the BHF and make a complaint. That is totally unacceptable.

Phone the number on the card and complain.

We had one knock on our door last night despite a no cold calling sticker on our door. We'd just got our baby to sleep and she got the door closed on her before she could finish introducing herself.
They really fuck me off.

I was about to say YABU. Theyre only doing their job. However. The I'm not psychic love bit made me change my mind to YANBU.
They can call up to 9pm. .
I don't even answer my door

I say " I need permission from the landlord to open my door to you as I don't know you" . How are they to know I own my house.

To be honest any charity that knocks on my door immediately gets struck off my list of ones i’m willing to support.

YANBU OP

YANBU. I find cold callers very irritating.

This thread reminds me of when I was heavily pregnant (overdue) and a double glazing salesman knocked at my door. My front blinds were open and he could see me, very clearly sat on my sofa.

I didn't have any fucks to give to even get up and tell him I wasn't interested, so went back to eating my lunch. He kept knocking and just staring at me through the window...it was pretty awkward.

I hate having charity collectors come to my door. They so often pile on the guilt to get me to sign up, I usually answer though as I hate it when they keep on knocking.

I now have a Ring doorbell so I can tell cold callers where to from the comfort of my sofa. Sadly I haven’t had any since we got it!

2100 is too late to call. They sound awful op. yanbu

Thanks everyone for all your kind words and support. I wish I could say I feel better. I carry guilt and have been thinking about this incident all day and now I feel terribly bad about swearing at them. I still think it was warranted so why do I feel awful. Erghhhhh. I'll do what most of you suggest and never answer my door in future.

Don’t feel bad!! I have had so many chuggers at the door and, by and large, they were polite and took me at my word when I said I would rather not donate/was already donating etc. Thats how they should behave. This lot sounded utterly disgusting. I would def inform BHF - they are bringing the charity into disrepute.

I hate it when they bang on the door as though your house is on fire, and then try and guilt trip you. I give small amounts to various charities, and tell them that, no guilt trip for me, I know I couldn't afford to give anymore than I am already donating. I also have a clear out every so often, and get my son to drop them to the charity shop.