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To speak to the teacher

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Mrsweasley123 · 25/01/2018 17:33

Have just come in from work- husband has told me when he collected our daughter today (4 years old) the teacher told him that a child in the playground today approached our daughter with a pair of scissors said "I'm going to cut you" and proceeded to cut my daughters finger with said scissors. Husband said the teacher told him they were "dealing with it".
Aibu to speak to the school/teacher tomorrow to query why reception children are allowed in the playground with scissors and if not how a child snuck scissors out of the classroom or am I being over the top and emotional because my daughter has been hurt?

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RapunzelsExtensions · 25/01/2018 17:36

It’s a very difficult situation on your part. But as from experience working in a school, please give them the opportunity to deal with it. It is so easy for children to sneak things out of the classroom. Also, I found there was nothing more frustrating when you inform one parent of an incident and the other comes all guns blazing.

In this situation, they won’t tell you who it is. And they will speak to the other child’s parents and put a strategy or plan in place to address the behaviour.

Ihatemarmite123 · 25/01/2018 17:37

Yanbu! I'd want to know how it happend and what they're going to do.

icelollycraving · 25/01/2018 17:37

I think it is entirely reasonable to speak to them tomorrow. Hope your dd feels ok.

RapunzelsExtensions · 25/01/2018 17:37

The questions you’re asking (how did it happen basically) will be a part of their investigation.

grasspigeons · 25/01/2018 17:38

I am sorry your child has been hurt

Its fine to ask some questions and better to have a calm chat than stew,

I don't think its difficult to imagine how a child snuck out with scissors though - just check that they will be counting scissors in and out in future now its a known risk maybe

Ihatemarmite123 · 25/01/2018 17:39

@rapunzelsextentions it should not be easy for a child to take scissors out of a class room. As a secondary teacher all equipment that has potential to cause harm is counted in and out. There's no excuse for a kid to take scissors into the playground and use them to hurt another child

RedHelenB · 25/01/2018 17:40

If they have outdoor provision there will be scissors outside. Ifor school are dealing with it there isn't really much 3lse you can do.

PurpleDaisies · 25/01/2018 17:40

To be fair, I wouldn’t expect scissors to be routinely counted in, especially since most of ours don’t even cut paper.

You’re absolutely within your rights to talk to the school about what happened and how it can be stopped from happening again.

Knittedfairies · 25/01/2018 17:42

The teacher made you aware of what had happened so I would think it very likely that there will be a proper investigation. It is, of course, entirely reasonable for you to speak to the teacher tomorrow (without all guns blazing though..)

FitBitFanClub · 25/01/2018 17:43

Of course they're not "allowed" to take scissors into the playground! Hmm This child has done so undetected, of their own bat, and the staff are dealing with it. What else is there to say?

bluesouper · 25/01/2018 17:45

Does she have an injury? Take a photo.
Poor girl, she must've been scared.

When I was in primary a boy cut my wrist open with 'safety' scissors. I was mesmerised by the blue vein I could see. I still remember the teacher in a flap and being whizzed off to hospital, how exciting for a 6 year old! GrinShock

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 25/01/2018 17:49

YANBU. I'd want to know how a child was running around with a pair of scissors and what they're going to do to ensure it does not happen again. Not only to your dd but any child. I'd be wanting to see their safe guarding policy, because there has been a serious failure.

VladmirsPoutine · 25/01/2018 17:55

I don't think you are being over the top. Safety matters. If it was an oversight then they will need to implement measures to stop this kind of thing. Query it as a potential risk, don't go in guns blazing.

Purplepillow94 · 25/01/2018 18:05

YANBU that sounds horrific! Shock your poor DD must of been very frightened. I would go on to find out what happened you have every right to know.

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Mrsweasley123 · 25/01/2018 18:09

Yeah definitely not planning on all guns blazing. If I had been the one to collect I would have asked the questions then, but my husband isn't the type to query anything. I completely get that mistakes happen I.e a child sneaking out with the scissors, but it's more as pp said about what's going to be happening to prevent similar incidents in future

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PoptartPoptart · 25/01/2018 18:10

The teacher did tell your DH what had happened and said the school were dealing with it. You have to trust that they will. They have no obligation to give you the ins and outs of the punishment dished out to the other child. All necessary information regarding safeguarding should be available on their website or from the school office.
The time to ask questions was when the teacher informed your DH at the end of the day. He should’ve asked the questions then if he so desired. Why do you feel the need to speak to the teacher about it again?

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Mrsweasley123 · 25/01/2018 18:16

I'm not interested in the punishment dished out to the child- more about the safety side of things. Obviously I wasn't there when the teacher informed my husband so I didn't have the opportunity to ask questions, it seems a bit odd to think that only the parent collecting should ask questions as evidently that gives me no opportunity to voice my own concerns

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arethereanyleftatall · 25/01/2018 18:40

This could have easily happened in my child's preschool as the children were free to roam between the playground and indoors as they preferred. Also bear in mind that presumably these were child's safety scissors that you can barely cut paper with.

NovemberWitch · 25/01/2018 18:44

How injured is your daughter? Was the other child also 4?
Yes, unless every child is frisked, it’s hard to stop things being taken, you tend to rely on the honour/snitch system. I’d expect the incident to be investigated, written up and the aggressor closely monitored in future.

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Mrsweasley123 · 25/01/2018 18:51

Yes other child was 4, daughter is okay but finger is cut into and caused bleeding.

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Missmteach87 · 25/01/2018 18:56

As a teacher I am struggling to see why he had scissors on the playground. What is to deal with? He should be punished via the school policy on physical harm.

PoptartPoptart · 25/01/2018 19:46

But surely it doesn’t need both parents to voice their concerns? Your DH was told what happened. I just don’t understand your need to also speak to the teacher. It’s basically saying you are in charge and DH is just the person who collects the DC and has no voice/authority/responsibility.
Yes, it was a serious incident, but the school will deal with it. I’m sure they will be just as concerned as you to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
They are 4yo. The person calling the other child ‘the agressor’ is going a bit ott. It was a dangerous thing to happen and it shouldn’t have happened, but at 4yo children are not always aware of the seriousness and dangers of their actions. It would be a completely different story if they were 10yo and a more severe punishment would be called for.

T1M2N3T4 · 25/01/2018 19:53

My dc's school has a mark making trolley in the reception playground which includes scissors. I think it's called continuous provision. The child in question may not have sneaked scissors out but they should still have been supervised by staff. Hope your dc will be ok

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