To be annoyed at DM giving my things away?

[PickettBowtruckles]

DH and I made the choice to move in with my parents for a little while in order to save for a deposit for a house (we live in a very expensive area, renting is more than what our mortgage would be!). We pay rent to my parents to live here and buy all our own food and toiletries.

My DB and his wife have recently got their first house and are in the process of buying things for it. Most of my things are in storage, but we have some items we took with us to our parents. Things kept disappearing and I've just found out my DM keeps offering them to DB and his wife and saying to keep them until we move back out. We have not been asked about any of this! DM has form for things like this and has been asked in the past not to (she'll offer friends of hers that DH or I will do things for them to help out but never ask us and then is cross if we're not free!)

I don't want to cause an arguement as I'm aware we are living in their home, but I'm really annoyed about this and don't know how to approach it without it being made into a big deal, but making sure she knows it's not acceptable.

I would bypass your mum, and tell your DB that your mum hasn’t asked if you want to lend these things, and to be honest, you’d prefer not to - and ask him to rbe fuse politely whenever she offers - or at least to say “Well - I’ll just check with Pickett, shall I?”

Start offering her stuff to them!! Say it needs returned by Christmas!

Oops - didn’t proofread - ask him to refuse politely...

I've spoken to DB and asked him to return the items. He's a bit put out as they thought it was less things it meant they had to get bit hopefully will listen to me! Good idea about asking him to refuse from now on though.

Would love to start offering her stuff back in return

I had this and they refused to give anything back !
you need to put a stop to this now
very disrepectful

Sounds like you need to put absolutely everything in storage!

I wonder if this is something like something my MIL used to do. She would give us things (often force them onto us wether we wanted them or not) she "no longer used", or "hadn't space for" them, always definitely a gift...not a lend.. Then sometime later she would insist on it back so she could give the same thing to someone else!
She just liked being thanked and thinking of herself as generous.
It got quite stupid because even if the things she gave you were broken you couldn't throw them away as you knew she would still want it back at some point so she could force it on someone else.
And she would ask after all this crap too. How it was doing, was it making our lives so much better? where was it as we didn't have it out?, so she could continue to be thanked some more!
I don't know what drove her to it but it was a pain.

My mum did this too! Went to my sisters and found my TV and her riding around on my (new) bike!! I’m sorry don’t have an answer but feel your pain! Some stuff is not the same once someone has had it for a while - you should have a choice in that.

Mil has just done something similar and i’m Raging. We bought two overnight cases (perfect size for Ryanair cabin baggage) she borrowed one for a short holiday and has now given it away. It was brand spanking new and now if we ever fly with have luggage again we’ll need to pay out for a new case. I have told dp she is not borrowing a case again. She knew it was just on loan to her.

She has been phoning asking if we have another bag she can borrow for this weekend to go away, dp said now and sage said ‘has fluffy not got anything?’bI told dp to tell her to buy her own or use asda fucking carrier bags!!! I’m not lending her any of my cases or weekend bags as they’ll be given away again!

As pp said put all of your stuff into storage plus maybe a couple of her items too just fit the sheet hell of it 😂

Glad it's not just my DM! @Fluffyears I'd be raging about that too!