Aibu to throw her post in the bin???

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We bought our house 3 years ago. Pretty acrimonious purchase and a very stressful time for us, but we got through it. For acrimony, think deceit and mean spiritedness. Eg cutting the cabling for tv in the house.

We didn’t realise it at the time but our next door neighbour is the mother of the previous owner! Talk about awkward.

So I’ve tried since to mend bridges but the family are pretty icy towards us. Likely previous owner has painted us as monster buyers.

Previous owner still gets post at our house and until now I have just slipped it into neighbours postbox so she can collect at leisure.

However 3 years on and I am still getting her post. Not just junk - serious stuff like pensions letters, council letters etc.

I’ve built a rod for my own back now haven’t I... would I be unreasonable to stop dropping it next door?

Just return to sender.

Return to sender stating no longer at this address

Yep, return to sender. I always do this and it vastly reduces the amount of junk I get for previous occupants

Another vote for stick it back in the post to return to sender. Easily sorted!

Yeah you are being too nice. Return to sender. If she still doesn't learn from that, throw in the bin.

Write 'not known at this address, return to sender'' on it and put it back in the post box.
It gives the sender a heads up that they are being dishonest.

We still get post for the previous tenants. We've been living here 13 years and they were only there for 6 months.

Return to sender - unknown at this address.
Keep doing it. Companies will stop eventually.
You don't want this person connected with your address even in name only.

Just write RTS and sling it back in the post.

I would keep an eye out that she isn’t using your address for financial stuff fraudulently.

You have to return to sender. If she gets into debt, one of the ways debt recovery establish where to send the bailiffs, is by where the post is sent.
You don't want her using your address when obtaining credit etc. I can understand passing on post when you first move house because it sometimes takes a while for post redirection to kick in, but 3 years is taking the piss.

Our sellers didn't bother setting up a redirect so I initially put it back in the post marked return to sender. 10 years later it goes in the bin.

Just a thought, we had one come for one of the numpties yesterday with no return address on the envelope. Could I open it to find a return address? I think it's in the bin now but I was wondering for next time.

I get piles of mail for previous residents who were evidently up to eyes in debt and may still be using this address fraudulently. I get so much that I bought a 'return to sender' stamp (a few quid) as it was too time consuming to write return to sender on every envelope!

Just a thought, we had one come for one of the numpties yesterday with no return address on the envelope. Could I open it to find a return address? I think it's in the bin now but I was wondering for next time.

Yes of course. It is only an offence to open mail if you intend to commit fraud or in another way cause harm to the addressee. In your case you are trying to be helpful (a better person than me; I'd use it to light my fire!)

I return for a few weeks but regularly bin/recycle other people’s mail if I’ve lived there after 6months. I especially hate the brochures, they get opened and recycled straight away. Just bin the junk!

We have lived at our current house for nearly 10 years. We still get post for the last 3 tenants - catalogues, junk mail, all sorts. The most recent tenant was clearly in serious debt as we got a number of letters for them (sent back initially), then a bailiff letter marked "Urgent - occupant do not ignore - warrant" (or something similar) which we opened. They were planning to come a few days later... I rang up, explained the situation & had to provide proof of our current tenancy etc. We also got a letter from their child's school, regarding his temporary exclusion, requesting that they make contact. (DH opened that in error, thinking it was junk mail!)
We started binning things if the company didn't redirect after we'd informed them several times. Our letting agent was useless & wouldn't bother to pass anything on. Screw them.

Return to sender. Hopefully it'll stop being sent eventually that way. Putting it in the bin won't get the message across that the person know longer lives there.

Even if there's no return address you can still put it back in a post box 'no longer at this address, forwarding address unknown' as the Royal Mail have a centre in Belfast dedicated to trying to get misaddressed post to the correct place and are permitted to open it. I prefer to do that than get in trouble for opening someone else's post, even with the best of intentions.

Return to sender. it's not your problem and tbh, you have been FAR more generous than anyone else would have been.

I can bung it in the post except to get to the postbox I have to walk past her Mum’s house! 😂

Weirdly today another neighbour knocked on my door with post for previous owner that had been delivered to his address ... I told him to keep it...

What about if I turn it to papier-mâché... or give it to my toddler to play postman... would those be reasonable responses 🤔

oh just bin it.

With what you said about your buying experience I’d have been chucking it away from day one

We sometimes still get the previous owners post. They actually admitted they hadn't bothered doing a redirection. The postie was actually really helpful - said they'd skim off the previous owners name at the sorting office. We still get odd bits, but mostly Amazon parcels (😩) or if it's a different postie.

My parents had they same when they moved, and again the postie helped out.

See if you can flag down yours 🙂

We had this with a previous tenant of our rental. He knocked on the door a few weeks after we’d moved in to ask for his post - I gave him what had arrived that day but said he’d need to sort out mail redirection and we’d be putting anything else back in the post as RTS. A few months down the line he knocked again asking for all his post since he’d moved out, and seemed astonished when I told him we hadn’t kept it and had posted it all back! He had clearly been running a business from home which is specifically banned in our lease, so I suspect we landed him in a bit of trouble y making various banks and government departments aware that he’d moved. Very much his problem, not mine.