To think don't judge if you don't know?

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My ds has high anxiety - he has asd and various other SN.
He attends MS with EHCP.

Today is year 9 jabs. He's been in a state if it's even mentioned and I didn't think he'd even get into the room.

So he went into hall and curled up on chair under his coat - his safe position he adopts when anxious. A supply teacher then announced for everyone to ignore him as he's attention seeking

Why would anyone do that to a child they don't know - whether SN or not - plenty of people have needle phobias.

Luckily ds very amazing, kind, caring and compassionate school nurse noted his distress and held his hand whilst he sobbed through both injections and took him for a drink and to calm down whilst he continued sobbing for nearly half an hour.

YADNBU. Have you put in a complaint noto just about the supply teacher but alsothe school,as They they must not have told her
about your sons condition or If they did tell her she clearly needs more training.
Also as you say a lot of people are needle phobic.

Oh poor love, this has really upset me. I work with children and can't even imagine why he would be treated like that. A supply teacher should have enough experience of many different personalities to realise it wasn't attention seeking behaviour. I am so glad the school nurse realised your son's distress and treated him wonderfully.

Yes definitely Praise for the school nurse.

I'm surprised any teacher of teenagers would consider his behaviour 'attention seeking'.

Surely they realise that kids will take the kids for that sort of behaviour - not see it as a badge of honour and something to be done for attention and to be proud of?

Lots of kids took the piss all day because he cried.

I bought him a lemonade and his favourite chocolate and told him how proud I was of him for having it done despite his fear.

And yes - the nurse is a diamond! Ex a and e nurse who he sees everyday as she does his medication for him.

May I ask why it wasn't arranged to give him his injections privately/in a side room etc rather than in with the crowd?

Seems odd when it's known how he will react.

When my DD had her y8 HPV jab, they did the nervous children first, quietly at the start of the day, so they could get it over and done with. Ace.

That may be my fault new. I didn't speak to keyworker or nurse prior to say how anxious he was or suggest this.

Ds is an amazing young man. He can't even watch someone have an injection on tv yet surprises us daily with what he manages to cope with.

I and school tend not to make specific differential arrangements as it can make ds think he has something to be anxious about. We do however respond appropriately to any anxiety and acknowledge it.

In hindsight we maybe should have done things differently.

He was in first group in first group of the day!

Aww but well done to him getting through it! That's brilliant!

A supply teacher tore a massive strip off my friend's ds in front of all of his mates for wearing a cap in school. It was his first day back after aggressive cancer treatment and he'd lost his hair. I still feel angry when I think about that.

@BitOutOfPractice That's unbelievable.

I know. It was obvious to anyone why he was wearing it.

Not o a par with these, but my DS when 6 twisted his ankle at playtime at school. He went and sat down, then went to the supply teacher they had for a couple of days when it felt no better. She told him off for whining, and insisted he stand up for the rest of playtime.
He met me in tears at the end of school, and she told me the above, with obvious irritation..
He wasn't a fussy child, so I immediately had a look at his leg; his ankle was about twice normal size and completely rigid, twisted inward. She said there was no way she could have known it was hurt!

We took him to hospital where they splinted it straight, gave him crutches and told him not to put weight on it for a week.
She hadn't even looked at it, just assumed he was messing around.

Bit
My mum finished chemo a few months ago and yes - you can usually tell.

But that's my point anyway - why make a judgement publicly that's negative about someone if you just don't know?

it was my fault?

well this pisses me off... (been there done that)

they have a responsibility too, to offer support and adapt things for the child with disability.