AIBU - is it really that difficult to rsvp a child's party?

[dementedmummy]

Had a party for DS. Out of a class of 25, I had 7 parents call/text to confirm attendance or otherwise. On the day, had 17 kids from the class turn up and 2 who said they would be there not turn up but no message to cancel sent! Is it really that difficult to say whether or not your child can attend (5-6 years old). Have manners just went out the window? Seems to be no consideration that a parent might need to confirm numbers ahead of time or outlaw cash for a little cherub who may or may not appear! Drives me nuts! Aibu and therefore thoroughly old fashioned to expect an rsvp? Maybe this is just the done thing in my area? I am preparing to be flamed! X

This had me in bits last year for dds 4th. Everyone except one child came and it was great but a good number of parents replied on the day or I had to chance up. It's shitty manors to leave it so late.

It’s rude. I had an adult birthday party recently and it was the same, so I don’t think it’s just kids parties. People have bad manners these days.

After a few years of being irritated by it I copied another parent and started putting an RSVP date on with regrets assumed after that date.

I approached the parents I've invited to my sons as it's in the half term and wanted to check people were actually around although haven't invited that many children so was quite easy to chase up - I actually had a few say the invite hadn't made it home so am glad I checked - the kids had just put them in their drawer at school so parents hadn't even seen!

It is not hard to rsvp for any kind of party not just kids ones. It takes 10 seconds and it is easy to put a reminder in your phone to do it.

Had the same with my DDs Halloween Party, sadly those who didn’t see fit to reply will not receive an invite again..... and I throw excellent parties- so very much their loss!

Sorry you’ve had this though!

After a few years of being irritated by it I copied another parent and started putting an RSVP date on with regrets assumed after that date.

Did it help?

I'm so worried about this - have invited all 30 of DS's class to his 6th birthday and I know the teacher put the invites in every bag last week. So far I have had 4 RSVPs. The party is in 2 weeks and I have to pay per head for every child coming over 20, if I don't get a response I don't know whether to pay in case or not pay and then the child can't join in (it's a silent disco and they bring the headphones for each child).

It's just really rude. Whenever I get an invite I RSVP as soon as possible and ask what type of gift the child might like.

Thanks everyone for your replies. Glad it's not just me! My main issue is I only do the school run once a week so I'm still trying to work out what child belongs to what class and parent! Thankfully after having the same debacle with my older child, I found a great hassle free venue where you only pay a minimum of £80, you dont need numbers and they deal with whoever turns up on the day and provide party bags. That notwithstanding I just find it so rude not to reply one way or another. Mind you it was the same for our wedding, mostly with the guests that we invited under duress from respective parents! 😁

I hate having to chase invites, I text as soon as I see the invite after I've consulted the calendar and then write it in.
I actually felt really bad when my DD became ill on the morning of the party after saying we would go, that I bought a card and put money in it.
I know probably not the norm but they were together at nursery and very chummy and I felt so bad cos I know they only had x amount of places so only a select few got invited.