The laundry basket fight

[MumJ21]

Why oh why can DH never put his dirty clothes in the washing basket? I have asked 100 times, told him anything left on the floor is going to stay there, but then it’s there for days he just walks over it, so I always end up picking up after him!

Now it’s just like an ongoing joke between us but I know this can’t just be my DH who does this. The washing basket is right outside our bedroom door and I even put another downstairs but still he seems totally oblivious to it.

Tell me I’m not alone in this!

It's not about doing the washing. It's the fact he just dumos it on the floor and leaves it there until YOU pick it up.

There was a poster who said to her husband ''every time you pull a stunt like that, say out loud ''Fuck you, Wife. I'm too important for this.''

I see how it being strewn over on the floor for days pisses you off but the answer isn't putting it in the basket. You have to put it somewhere that isn't the basket, doesn't annoy you too much and means he still has to do the basket himself eventually.

I'd kick the clothes over to a heap on his side of the bed or inconveniently by his wardrobe door or in a pile against the wall.

I wouldn't wait for days, just every time I had to walk "through" a pair of his pants my foot would scoot it over to the pile. This does not then come across as petty because "What? It was in my way."

Upstart, that’s absolutely genius. I would use it, but my DH is never leaving stuff on the floor. Neither does my DS, since he was about 3.
I think it’s exactly like that - “Fuck you, wife. I don’t give a shit about you, I’m too busy and important”.

Maybe the clothes aren't dirty and he is planning on wearing them again before they need washing. Its bad for the environment to wash things that dont need it.

My 19 month old takes his own washing into the laundry and puts it in the basket. It is one of his favourite things to do.... I just hope the concept sticks for life!

If it's not in the basket doesn't get washed

When it gets to the basket whose job is it to wash it? I know this is supposed ho be light hearted but I don't think it's particularly funny how little is expected of these useless men. If my DP couldn t perform basic tasks to look after himself I wouldn't be with him

Oh god dh is like this.Clothes on bedroom floor dirty laundry on top of basket pud instead of inside.Ive given up nagging it doesn't work

If you keep picking the stuff up and washing it, he has zero incentive to change. Surely you've worked out for yourself what the answer is, i.e not to wash his stuff unless it's in the basket? Why haven't you put it into operation?

I would no more wash a healthy adults clothes than I would give them a shower. It's personal care in my view.

I have no idea how DP treats his washing basket as I have no reason ever to look in it.

Why are you all doing their washing? I've never done my husband's washing and he's never done mine.

But you said you've asked him 100 times not to do it and he's ignoring you because he doesn't give a shit. I accept that the '100 times' is a light hearted exaggeration but I bet you've asked him quite a few times. You've told him that it's not acceptable and he's ignoring you. That's behaving shittily towards you.

We have a laundry basket each, and we do our own washing.

I cured my husband of this by simply not washing them and a pile built up behind the ensuite door. Mil and I had a bet as to how long it would take for his lordship to sort it out. One week! And I suspect he had been perilously close to not having any Knicks left.

My partners clothes down the side of his bed. I do not move them anymore, he eventually does!

Why are you all doing their washing? I've never done my husband's washing and he's never done mine.
I don't understand this any more than I understand picking up after him.
When you cook for yourself, do you not cook for him too? When he cooks, does he cook for you? Why not do the same for washing?
My DH and I share all the household jobs. Sometimes he cooks, sometimes I do. We both do cleaning as and when we notice it needs cleaning. He does most of the shopping, I do most of the washing. Everyone clears up their own stuff and puts clothes that need washing in the washing basket. Everyone puts their own clean clothes away.

If everyone did their own washing, it would be an inefficient, logistical nightmare and the washing machine would be in constant use!

There's exactly the same amount of washing however it's divvied up. It was normal and easy for me to do my laundry efficiently when I lived alone, nothing's changed now that I share a home.

Never again in my life will I hear the words 'have I got any clean socks' from someone I didn't give birth to.

I have tried to transport the fight to another room. Two laundry baskets - full size one and silicone 'carry' one in guest room. Super simple system:
'carry' basket is for the next colour of wash we're doing (darks, whites etc), big basket for everything else. Carry basket fills up in the week and I do laundry Weds. Then I pick the most pressing from the big basket and start next week's load.

All you have to do at the end of the day is put your dirties in the big one, or the carry basket, if if it matches the next load.

But apparently it's 'complicated' enough for him to forget and leave his pants on the bathroom floor, grrr.

I only wash what appears in the basket but this usually means DH only noticing the growing pile of "I might give that shirt a second day out" half-washing on a Saturday morning when he's not at work and then trying to hog the machine all day.

Dh does all the laundry round here. even though I'm not the one doing the laundry I still manage to put my clothes in the right laundry bag, it's not exactly difficult. I don't treat DH like a laundry slave.