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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Yes I am and need a good MN slap, probably.

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madamez · 28/04/2007 00:08

Ds dad talks of wanting another baby. He and I are very definitely not a couple, so he's talking mostly about having another one with someone else. I would be really pushing my luck to even think of having another one (I am 42). I am also very broke, life in chaos, no other potential fathers around, worry about if I had a LO by someone else would that other person be as good a dad as DS dad is and how would DS cope with it all...
I am just a bit pissed tonight and stupidly broody which must mean I have PMT or something...

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PeachesMcLean · 28/04/2007 00:12

So you're tempted with DS's dad???

Have a cup of tea and go to bed. You'll be back to normal in the morning.

nappyaddict · 28/04/2007 00:22

i am a bit confused ...

so ds' dad and you split up i presume?

you both want another baby, but neither of you are in a relationship atm?

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madamez · 28/04/2007 00:47

Nappyaddict: Ds dad and I are old pals who got a bit careless one night, hence DS.
Peaches: Well, nothing drastic is going to happen right now because DS dad 20 miles away in bed with his bad back. And it's not going to happen anyway.

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nappyaddict · 28/04/2007 00:50

sounds a bit like me and my ds' dad. except we are no longer pals cos he turned ou to be a bit of a twat.

hope you don't mind me asking but was it just that once or has it ever been more of a regular thing?

i have nothing angainst single parentdom - i am one afterall but i'm not sure how good an idea it is to plan to get pregnant knowing that the baby won't be bought into a loving family iyswim.

nappyaddict · 28/04/2007 00:51

how old is ds btw?

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madamez · 28/04/2007 01:25

DS is 2.7 and his dad is a very involved dad, seeing him at least once, usually twice a week, babysitting overnight etc. We are on very amicable terms but just not a couple and not going to be. (Oh, and the bonk that produced DS was the first time we'd done anything like that in about 6 years:longstanding drinking buddies who dated each other in 1990 and had the occasional quick one).

It really isnt' going to happen, I'm just being wingy.

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moretomorrow · 28/04/2007 01:34

aaahhh. you need a hug. here. [hug]

nappyaddict · 28/04/2007 01:43

sometimes alcohol makes you think shagging your best friend would be a great idea doesn't it ... it rarely is! except for when you get a fantastic ds out of it like we did.

MrsJohnCusack · 28/04/2007 04:56

I don't think you need a slap. broodiness is VERY potent

anyhow, did you ever see my post on the 'famous people you went to school with thread'? I think you are an old school friend of my sister's . don't worry, I would never reveal your identity, but it is really wierd when you suddenly realise who somebody is....second time it's happened to me on here

Furrymummy · 28/04/2007 05:53

You probably are being unreasonable, but you need comfort not a slap, it is totally understandable to feel the way you do. {{{{{hugs}}}}}

cece · 28/04/2007 07:53

My friend did this. She had a second one with the father of her first dc. They were not an item. TBH he was a real twat and she got shot of him as soon as she had her second dc. She is now with the most lovely of men.

Prunerli · 28/04/2007 07:59

I don't think it's all that unreasonable tbh
Sort of neater all round, no?
Easier for holidays etc in future

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madamez · 28/04/2007 09:31

Mrs JC, oooh, intrigued now. The school I went to was in SE London (Blackheath). Can you give me a clue as to who your sister might be?

Everyone: having had a good sleep (and DS being naughty and whiny this morning) I am back to happily not-too-broody again, which is just as well.

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MrsJohnCusack · 28/04/2007 12:29

madamez, yes, girls school in BLackheath attended by Sophie Aldred and Mrs LLB. I am 10 years younger than my sister, her initials are (were) CS and she was friends with you, RS, FC, SS and JW (Mrs LLB) amongst others.

glad the broodiness has eased

MrsJohnCusack · 28/04/2007 12:30

god I sound like a creepy stalker

it was just that the penny dropped when I read your post on the schools thread.

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madamez · 28/04/2007 14:51

Mrs JC, Gotcha! Know who you are (at least I am pretty sure) - you and your family had a black and white collie dog called Tui and lived near Lewisham. How is your big sis? I'm awfully sorry but I can't remember your name.

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MrsJohnCusack · 29/04/2007 00:35

Yes that's me - wouldn't expect you to remember my name though! (I remember names because obviously I was in awe of my sister and all her tremendously grown up and sophisticated friends). My DD has that dog's name as a middle name...

My sister is fine, she is moving out to Wellington NZ (coincidentally to us moving here, wasn't planned like this) this weekend with her DH for at least 2 years. no children but they have a beloved small dog from Battersea who is also making the trip.

ooooh small world etc. etc. keep livening up the place won't you!

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madamez · 29/04/2007 21:13

THought so. Do give C my regards and tell her I am on Friends Reunited if she wants to drop me an email. I wonder if any other ex-fellow pupils are on here?

Oh and PMSL at the idea of me and your sis as "sophisticated" we were a right pair of clowns in our teens

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