We live on a farm, OH is the farmer.
OH’s brother (who has his own business completely unrelated to the farm) is an absolute Pratt.
Himself and his partner have made our lives very, very difficult. In a nutshell BIL was left a lot of land very young by her father who died when he was 12 (before DP was even born) MIL had 3 DC’s to raise as well as a farm to run (DP’s father had left her some land and all of the buildings on the estate). BIL had allowed MIL to rent the land he was left however, over the years has used it as a stick to beat her with. DP says that BIL, in the past, has had MIL held by her throat, thrown spanner’s at her head as broken her glasses as well as punching holes through walls and doors. As a result she always gave him his own way and he was completely spoilt as a child.
Now this has meant various things for us over the years, having to calve cows by torch light because apparently, having lights on in the shed intereferred with BIL’s GF’s shower. We tried to be reasonable and rang her before we put the lights on but even that wasn’t good enough and in the end BIL disconnected the lights altogether.
When DD was first born we were living with MIL. BIL had moved out of the cottage that we were going to move into with DD into the biggest house on the estate (which he’d also bullied his way into, using his land as a bargaining tool). It was 9 months before he would hand the keys over so we could start moving things in by which time the pipes had frozen and burst and left in inhabitable. As well as this his GF (who is a nurse) had left a bag of used sharps in the cupboard under the stairs. We’ve been moved in for 6 years now after a lot of uneccesary expense.
They had to walk past the front of our house to get to theirs and every week they have a dog and complain that the DC’s garden toys are out and that his GF is worried that she will trip over them (the toys are on the grass and there is a path to her house - I never leave the toys on the path). She complains that they make too much noise when they’re out in the garden in summer, openly admits that she ‘hates, loathes and detests’ children. She has screamed at me for parking my car in the wrong place, she has set her dog on our sheep and he has set his dog on our calves before now. He also has a criminal record for beating DP up.
MIL died last year and has left her land in thirds, a third to each child. BIL is refusing to give DP a tenancy on his third (even though he has no use for it as well as that he already owns) which, when everything is properly sorted out, is going to leave us struggling.
DP is upset because he has done most of the work on the farm for the past 22 years and MIL bought land (which DP contributed to) and promised that it would be left to him to continue on the business when she was gone. There’s also more evidence that BIL has bullied out of MIL what he wanted before she died, she has signed over entitlements and 2/3 of moor rights to him and 1/3 to DP. I’m so upset for him, he said that he feels as though he’s still being punished for going to the police when BIL beat him up.
They’re horrible to the kids, the have a complete and utter disregard for DP’s livelihood and it feels as though they’re going to screw him over as much as they can because they enjoy seeing him struggle.
I just want to move, I’ve had enough.