To feel pretty miserable without DP?

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How much does everyone miss their DP while he/she is away?

Me and DP officially "live" 200 miles apart but in reality he works in the same city as me most weekdays at my place and we spend most weekends either here or together where he lives.

I really, really, really miss him when he's away though. I don't cry or anything but I feel generally very pulled down and sad; wishing we were together and thinking about him loads. I see my friends and exercise while he's away and I do enjoy it and manage to have a laugh but the nagging sadness is always there.

We've been together two years so it's not a super new relationship.

Do others feel this way of you live apart from DP some of the time? I sometimes worry I'm a bit needy and co-dependent.

Understand Norfolk used to live near airforce base and had lots of friends in village who were forces. We supported each other like sisters would. Went through births, marriages and deaths together.
Other people don't realise what forces couples and families put up with to keep us safe. They were strong woman. I take my hat off to you😃

My dh is away for a few days with work, I speak to him when we get chance, I miss him but I'm not sad about him being away. The only thing I don't like is sleeping on my own, the bed's cold too! We've been together 20 years though, and I have dc for company, it's a bit different when you're still in the early days of love!

No I love my own space

I'm so used to him being away and don't really miss him.

I positively enjoy it when DP is away for a night or two. I enjoy my own company and spreading out across the double bed.

I think I'd feel different of he was away for weeks though.

Dreadfully. I am in a very very similar situation. Sometimes I’m ok. This week I have a sadness hanging over me I can’t shake. I also have anxiety and at times I get worried he will get fed up with me!

The obvious answer would be for him to move close to London and move in together . Sounds like he doesn’t wish to do this. Is uncertainty about the relationship’s future contributing to the week to week sadness?

I agree with this. If he lived with you, you might not be so sad as you would know you are committed to each other.

You say he has a mortgage, but could he rent out his property and move in with you?

My DH is away with the military, I’m living in a foreign country with my children. My mental health has taken a nosedive...it pains me that I seem to be ‘reliant on a man for happiness’ but I miss him and it’s really hard.

I love it when DP is away but I've always liked my own space.

Ah thanks for all the lovely replies

Living set up not changing for the immediate future but thanks for the input.

He's an ex-pro surfer so he's pretty much always in the sea when not here.

Anyway without a contract there's no point him paying to sit in my tiny flat in London bday in day out while I'm at work. And of we rented his place put we wouldn't have our weekend bolt hole, although he is thinking about taking in more lodgers.