Jealous of his phone!

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Just got back from a luxury holiday with hubby! 12 hour flight , I'm just under 6 months pregnant, and it was our last fancy holiday for a while, it was expensive but I thought it's worth it!
Hubby has his own business has 5 staff, and he's addicted! I feel abit annoyed that I put so much effort in to this holiday and it was his birthday whilst we were there and he spent so much of the time on his phone! Texting and emails to clients and his staff, it was for one week! There were no big problems everyone knew what they were doing, I was getting so annoyed but didn't want to spoil the trip by moaning, he argument is that he can lay by the pool and still use his phone, but I was like it's out last holiday as us 2! He was just distracted all the time! May aswell stayed at home or gone local.

Aibu or am I lucky to have such a workaholic husband xx

I suppose the argument could be that you got to go on that luxury holiday because he works so hard. But I'm with you. I leave my phone at home (bit stupid in case of an emergency but I'd be on it all the time otherwise.)

Nope I paid for it all as a birthday treat!
I love him dearly but wish he didn't work so hard!

Xx

As I found I was getting abit bored with it all x

Didn't fancy just mentioning it at any point... like... "hey darling, let's have some Us Time?"

I did believe me, I said I was going to throw the phone in the sea, he kept saying in a min, I've just got to do this, I need to reply to that, and then when he finally put it down, to slot me in, that just didn't feel very romantic

We have a compromise on holiday

DH can have his phone with him during the day but it stays in the room in the evening

Ah ok.

Well if it's an issue OP you need to talk it out and sort it out before your baby comes as I imagine things will be a lot harder and stressful then!

I certainly don't think you are lucky OP, I think that's really bad behaviour especially if none of it was urgent. Lots of people are like this and when the work is unnecessary (as this seems to be) I think it often comes from insecurity and inability to delegate - they need to feel indispensable. Of course no-one is indispensable, except perhaps to their family.

I wouldn’t call spending time on a phone being a workaholic. It’s hardly hard work . Maybe he just couldn’t switch off .

Your right, he can't switch off, he's always a ran his own business , think he has to be in control of it all the time ,

Ugh I know it's a first world problems, but we had such a upsetting last year non work related, and I needed this, I'm not unhappy just feel put out , need to talk to him about it and have rules for next time,

Xx