AIBU to be really hurt that Fiancée is looking at old Au Pairs photos of Facebook?

[Andrewsgirl]

I know I shouldn't have and regret it now, but Fiancée left his Facebook account logged in and I took a snoop. So have seen that he hasn't been doing a lot of searching for photos on many different occasions of his children's old au pair! She's a young attractive lady and seeing his search history has really upset me. There can't really be any innocent explanation other than he finds her attractive and likes look at pictures of her.

I don't really know what to do or whether to say what I've seen!

He was also looking up on several occasions a woman he had a short fling at work with (before my time!)

What would you do? Is this just standard male behaviour?? If they're not looking at porn they're looking at pictures of attractive women they know??? I don't know if I've over reacting?

Thanks x

I'm sure it hurts OP but it's very probably completely harmless. I often look up exes to see what their up to and I would be MORTIFIED if DH found out because there is truly nothing to it.

I think the real question is... why were u snooping? Do you trust him?

Why are you snooping? Surely its harmless unless he has form for cheating on you? Ive looked at ex's - purely to see how they are and my husband's ex's are still his friends. Do you not trust your soon to be husband?

I guess you've hit the nail on the head, maybe I don't trust him, my ex husband cheated on me a few weeks after our son was born, so I have trust issues! I guess I snooped because I hoped to find nothing and reassure myself.

My fiancee has supposedly been off Facebook for nearly a year, he obviously hasn't been as he's been going back on to look at pictures and look people up. When he announced he was going back on Facebook it made me ask why and made me suspicious!

It's not his ex the it's the old au pair that's kinda different. I get looking at the ex but the au pair is weird IMO.

You'll drive yourself mad looking at things like his search history.

I often look up people I've known in the past, more curiosity than anything. You should decide if you trust him or not.

I often look up people I knew from years ago - it's the only reason I use FB. It only means anything if he's contacting them.