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Things people are pissed off at you about that you actually have nothing to do with.

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Beeinthecity · 23/01/2018 12:40

I currently have a neighbour who is pissed off at me because our joint landlord is doing work on the neighbouring empty flat which involves drilling into her wall and I didn't tell her.

I didn't know! Just as she didn't because the empty flat is nothing to do with me.

Capped off with her telling me it was a good job they were doing it today or she wouldn't have been impressed if it carries on tomorrow when she is on nights.

Confused

Anyone else deal with people like this.

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Balearica · 23/01/2018 13:57

I had a complaint yesterday from someone about the colours used on a document clearly not generated by me (it was very specialist and they knew where it came from) but forwarded by me to them, together with the initial email sending it to me.

Clearly I should be vetting everyone's attachments and ensuring they use the right colours!

Witchend · 23/01/2018 13:57

Because I didn't believe her deliberate lie to try and manoeuvre her dc into having a specific job-which isn't suitable for children anyway-in an extra curricular club.
She thinks we think it was a misunderstanding, but it clearly wasn't.

veuveo · 23/01/2018 14:01

My son is pissed off with me because I make him go to school and make him brush his teeth. But I'm guilty so I guess I brought that on myself!

dawnc27 · 23/01/2018 14:02

best friend had an accident at the weekend, both her and her dh have posted all over fb about this.
other concerned friends asked me how she was so i gave the exact same update bf had told another friend not even 2 mins before. i have now got grief saying im telling her business all around town and that im making it about me!
i also have short term memory problems so i was not able to recount the conversation exactly word for word, and as a few had asked i got confused about which one mentioned a certain something so im now also a liar

LemonScentedStickyBat · 23/01/2018 14:09

I’m a charity shop volunteer and a woman is pissed off with me because no one wants to buy her old VHS tapes

Hoppinggreen · 23/01/2018 14:11

I’m Chair of our PTA - I only recently took over the post but clearly the lack of adequate parking at school is entirely my fault according to one parent this morning.
I suggested that she join the PTA herself to try and help sort it out

Wetwashing00 · 23/01/2018 14:13

My DD is pissed at me because she had to go to school without brushing her hair. She is 9
My DS is pissed at me because he doesn’t know how to unlock the front door with a key. He is 3

Biddie191 · 23/01/2018 14:14

veuveo what is it about boys and brushing their teeth? Mine also blames me for this, and would rather spend 10 minutes arguing about it than 2 minutes doing it!

I was blamed when my daughter scored 3 goals in a match, by someone whose daughter didn't score at all. Her daughter barely moved the whole time, and hates sport....

ThisIsTheVoice · 23/01/2018 14:15

Not current...but I got blamed for losing an important file at work. So many nasty comments from the team leader...and many pissed off colleagues....conference calls with the client where my name was mentioned as having been responsible for losing the file...went on for a month, until it was found in HIS desk drawer! Not a single apology from anyone let alone him. I handed in my notice not long after.

ArbitraryName · 23/01/2018 14:16

amusedbush

Sigh. Yes. And the salaries of the people who make these decisions would make you weep. ‘Restructuring’ the university executive (by which I mean reducing it by at least half) would probably do more to improve things than all their ‘brilliant’ schemes.

ShastaTrinity · 23/01/2018 14:16

I got blamed when someone was made redundant at work and I took over the job. Nothing to do with me, what did they expect me to do!

mummmy2017 · 23/01/2018 14:17

Another mum is POWM that my DD is taller than her DD, like 6 inches and I must be feeding her junk with additives, I did point out my Ex is well over average height, she is taller than the child's dad, but hell no it's my fault on food not genetics.

ExConstance · 23/01/2018 14:18

Care Manager here, service users complaining about ridiculous things such as care assessor using I pad and not taking shorthand, staff complaining about things I can do nothing about, such as an incontinent cat. As usual it is all my fault.....

ProperLavs · 23/01/2018 14:20

I am regularly admonished by friends for not waving back at them when they saw me out and about. Fact is it was never me that they were waving at as I wasn't on that bus/ in that car park/ walking down that road when they 'saw me'.

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 23/01/2018 14:24

I've had to communicate a huge change in our security systems to the company - decisions made by the management that I have been no party to and have no influence over, but because I have had to email the changes to the firm, apparently it's all my fault.
The stupid thing is the changes should have been made years and years ago and aren't exactly onerous.

BerylStreep · 23/01/2018 14:28

My Dad's pissed off with me because my sister uninvited him from her wedding at the last minute, having only invited him 12 hours previously. I only got my last minute invitation at the same time he did, and I had nothing to do with her decisions whatsoever.

He hasn't spoken to me in over 10 years as a result Confused

NewYearNiki · 23/01/2018 14:30

Solicitor here.

I'd be here all day if I got started.

I love how my clients apparently thought I was so powerful that I could change and bend the law just to suit them though.

Chesntoots · 23/01/2018 14:32

I'm a Prison Officer and I get blamed every day by people because they are "in here".

I've tried explaining that we don't go round with a van randomly rounding up the general public, but they don't get it.

Can't imagine why they reoffend...

Buglife · 23/01/2018 14:32

I worked for the public sector so got this a lot! In a library which a lot of people see as some dreamy easy job but my God we got stick for everything. People who came in to use computers were the worst, it was my fault when they
Forgot passwords they had chosen for email accounts I had no control over.
Forgot all their details and passport to print a boarding pass for a flight they were leaving for that day.
Didn’t know how to get a file they claimed they’d emailed to themselves but hadn’t and it was on their laptop at home and they had 10 mins to print it before a job interview and why couldn’t I make it appear?
Couldn’t tell them how to use a website I’d literally just laid eyes on because wasn’t I supposed to help on computers and why didn’t I know how to use every website.
Couldn’t look at their broken laptop and instantly know what was wrong and fix it and what did I mean I wasn’t a computer engineer I worked in a place with computers in it.

And that was before we got blamed for everything the Council did, plus all library cuts that happened over the last 7 years (which obviously as staff in the library we logged more than anyone!) and anything another library user was doing that another user didn’t like. It was actually exhausting to deal with at times.

There is no one more ready to place undeserved blame on a person than a disorganised person with a chaotic life who has fucked up.

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Beeinthecity · 23/01/2018 14:35

I once had someone pissed off with me because I had stolen their purse and used their bank card at the atm.

Only I hadn't taken her purse, I had been out to McDonald's with her and my wage hadn't shown as in (it went in a day late due to my bank account) so it must have been me clearly.

Neither was it me on the CCTV using the card.

She made my life at work hell for months and didn't apologise when the police found out who it was (someone out of work so she must have dropped it on the way home)

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worstofbothworlds · 23/01/2018 14:36

I am also a university lecturer and my students get annoyed that their modules aren't exactly the way they want them.

Shame I don't have a crystal ball then, as less than 25% of my 3rd years filled in a survey about the module I'm coordinating.

Magicismagic · 23/01/2018 14:41

I was shopping in M&S food hall a random customer came up to me and complained about the lack of some item that they needed.
I was not wearing anything that could be taken for a staff uniform.
When I said sorry but I don't actually work here they said "that's what everyone says" and stomped off.
I'm guessing they had gone up to a few other shoppers before me.

Mummyoflittledragon · 23/01/2018 15:02

I’m the family scapegoat. I get a lot of blame. 🙄. I’d be here all day if I listed everything in the world over which I have no control but am apparently responsible for.

Thehogfather · 23/01/2018 15:04

mummy I've had that, but the accusation was over feeding in general having made dd tall. Both the idiot health visitor and a parent at school. Given that since crawling age (now 14) dd has been stick thin, not to mention I'm 6' and also thin, it's fairly obvious her height is hereditary and not the result of force feeding.

Was also my fault that dd often 'stole' a place that should have gone to a boy in mixed sex primary sports teams. Apparently sports teams are a boy thing.

Don't work for childrens services and never have, but because I sometimes encounter them professionally I am apparently able to dictate to them about which families they should/shouldn't be involved in, or get them to magically produce resources they simply don't have.

Ownerofalittlechimp · 23/01/2018 15:19

Former friend (Now definitely more of an icy aquaintance) is POWM & has been for several years as our lives have turned out differently. We both left long term relationships for similar reasons about a year apart. In the 9yrs since I’ve met & moved in with Dp, got engaged & had 2dc, whereas she hasn’t had a serious relationship since. This is apparently my fault, as is the fact that dp hasn’t got any single friends for me to set her up with. When at her request I have set her up (about 3 times I think) it’s my fault they haven’t gone well & weren’t her soulmate. I keep my distance now Hmm