AIBU to silently scream every time...

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... DH ‘tidies up’ but in actual fact simply makes piles of stuff. His last tidying up session involved spending an inordinately long time emptying a random selection of DS’s things from a perfectly good cupboard and putting said things in bags in the middle of DS’s room. Drives. Me. Potty. Don’t even get me started on the time he ‘tidied’ the coat rack and piled coats and scarves on our bed. Where the fuck were we meant to sleep? On the up side, the coat rack was empty... ARGH!

Are you all married to my husband???

Paperwork is piled and then filed into a bag for life

Anything that hasn’t been seen to be used in a while is put inside bin bag/box and stored in a massive pile in the loft. Not a label in site and said pile is rearranged regularly to make better use of the space available so that when you go to use something and it’s missing you can even guess it’ll be near the top of pile on loft.

If he sees me tiding he often decides to join in by going in the adjoining room and emptying it of all the things that don’t belong in there and putting them in the room I’m tidying. Or by going in the room furthest from where I am and shouting at me where does this go that go.

@newmumwithquestions I could have written your post! I didn't realise it was a thing until I saw everyone elses posts 😂

My OH does tidy up he rearranges or he puts things 'in transit', I've said that if he dies first then I'll have a Transit van and not a hearse. He emptied the bathroom bin, it was placed at the bottom of the stairs, then at the top of the stairs, then outside the bedroom door, then inside the bedroom door and eventually, 8 days after emptying it, into the bathroom!
When we were in our first house we decided once that he would clean and tidy the living room and I'd do the hall, stairs and landing when I returned. On return I found all the upstairs stuff from the living room was at the bottom of the stairs, so I put it back and he went crazy!

But no. The cupboard was the priority. Argh!!

Once when we were frantically preparing for visitors DH disappeared for several hours to clear the garage.

Once.

My df does this drives dm batshit I have noticed dd1 has inherited the trait. DH just randomly moves things without even pretending to tidy

My ex is like that. Once I came home I found he'd emptying all the mess, and random things from cupboards, furniture he didn't like etc into the playroom. could hardly get through the door. My work shoes were at the bottom of the heap! He didn't see how thus was problematic either.

Mine too. He'll empty the shopping bags onto the table to "help". I then have a pile of loose tins at the opposite end of the kitchen to the tin cupboard.

And don't get me started on the dishwasher. Dirty plates neatly piled on top of an empty dishwasher.
Or the cursory hoover around the middle of the room.

It's the demanded pat on the back and the way I should be eternally grateful that gets my goat most though.

Mine says 'Ive given the kitchen a good clean', I go in and the hob is filthy, tiles all spattered, dirty sink but hey, the worktops have been wiped over (and I have caught him 'wiping' the worktops with his bare hand, just brushing the crumbs off and onto the floor)

I’m messy, it takes me effort to be tidy. When I was a kid to help me my mum would put everything to bags in my room. The floor was clear but I could never find anything and it just got messy again. Drove me up the walk.

I now live by the adage of ‘so t out it down, out it AWAY’. Eliminates piles/bags. Though it can take longer it actually works and things go where they live.

Getting rid of my desk was amazing for just that reason.

Gah, fat fingers

You are unlikely to ask him to do it again so its win/win for him isn't it.

My dh does this. "I'll just sort this cupboard out" he mutters, 10 minutes later the cupboards empty, and there's a huge heap of stuff that he "doesn't know where it lives, so I'll leave it for you to sort out".
It lives in the fucking cupboard you just removed it from, you fucking doofus. Which is why it was in there in the first place. And now I'm going to have to put it all back in said cupboard.

Oh has tendencies this way also. I have rechristened him Arthur as he only ever does half a job.
However, I no longer go out of my way to finish it for him so if he comes out with such a gem as 'I've sorted out the mess on the table' and I see a lot of heaps of stuff which he expects me to deal with, I say 'Great! It'll look much better when you've finished that job'.

I've had a bad back the last fortnight so haven't been able to keep up with the housework, snapped at dh last night about his lack of help.... but he's a half-arsed twat. He 'did' the kitchen last night, well no dear, you put the mail in the folder, THE END.

He's promised to do the bathroom and change all the beds when he gets in from work. I'm muttering about it already

Well thank your lucky stars that he's not like my DH who will clear or tidy an area taking all the items he has cleared to the tip.
It has cost me hundreds of pounds, the spare sofa cushion covers (eight hundred pounds) a roll of curtain fabric (four hundred pounds) not to mention the vintage dinner service (wedgwood, inherited), these were all in the garage! he cleared them away to make some space, whilst leaving empty cardboard boxes and half empty cans of paint!
He will also "clear" areas of the garden by cutting down shrubs that I have been nurturing, whilst leaving brambles and stinging nettles.
Its a good job I love him!

My dp does this. I call it ‘redistributing the mess’ as he hides it in cupboards, out of sight, out of mind.

Drives me insane as we now have a 3 bed house so there’s more space for him to fill!

Oh Christ! It's not just me that suffers with this shit then?! My husband thinks tidying the sitting rooms means putting all the toys on the sofas......erm, no. Yes the floors clear but....THERE'S NO WHERE TO FUCKING SIT!!!!!!!!!!
Can you tell this gets on my tits?

HazelBite
That's outrageous and so upsetting .

My DH was also very fond of piles which were then put in the oddest of places. I spent far too much time looking for stuff which he had put in a 'logical' place. I totally lost my shit once when I couldn't find something very important and urgent which he had 'tidied up'. Turned out this piece of paper had been added to a pile of his stuff which had then been taken to his work.
He no longer plays with his piles and I have longer to spend on MN as am not ferreting around for stuff. Win-win!

I'm convinced some people deliberately do things badly so they're never asked again.

I’m not sure if I feel better or worse knowing there are so many men of a similar mindset. I’ve had a chat with him again about it as he was muttering about DS’s toy and book cupboard being filled with... yes, toys and books, because the contents of the cupboard were so much tidier in the middle of the room in a shopping bag. Twat. He. Does. Not. Get. It. I may have to LTB as suggested earlier...

On the upside, it’s a good excuse to soothe my irritation with a glass of .