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AIBU?

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She's completely taken advantage of me hasn't she?

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Butttons · 22/01/2018 19:57

Selling a few baby bits on local Facebook page. I had 1 item up for £5, in near mint condition. Brand new it sells for £17 on Amazon. A lady messaged me asking if I'd take £3. I'd got a lot of offers on some other bits so said that yes I would. We tried to arrange collection and struggled to find a suitable day as I work part time and we're away a lot at weekends at the moment. Anyway, she lives a couple of streets away from me so we arrange a time that I can deliver to her as I'm passing anyway. 5 min before we're due to meet she messages me and says she doesn't have any change (and can't leave the house as her child us sleeping). I turn up and she says she has £5 note or £2 in coins. Muggins here digs around and finally finds £2 change to give in exchange for the £5.

She has totally played me hasn't she? I'm not fussed about £2 but have just been left feeling totally taken advantage of. If it had been me I'd have offered to just give the giver considering the other person was going to the effort to deliver to me AND I didn't have the correct change. AIBU to feel like a complete mug?

OP posts:

lougle · 22/01/2018 20:18

So you think she said she only had a £5 note or £2 in change, thinking you'd say 'Oh I'll have to take £2, then', when the £3 you'd accepted was already knocked down from the £5 she had, and should have offered?

I think an advertised price is just a starting point.

ThisLittleKitty · 22/01/2018 20:21

It's clear to see what the ops problem is. If you know your buying something off someone and they are bringing it to you you atleast make sure you have the right money!

StressedtoHellandBack · 22/01/2018 20:23

I don't see why people don't just accept that the price is £X, either pay that figure or do not contact the seller. I had someone do that to me too. Had the buyer paid the asked price I would have given a few other items for free but because the buyer acted in this way I didn't give the extras.
Would you go to a supermarket and chose an item at £1 and then go to check out and hope you will be able to leave the shop after only paying 75p?

beverlybothered · 22/01/2018 20:28

'Completely taken advantage of'!? Your lucky OP if this is one of the worst things that has ever happened to you, although I dont quite understand what did happen to you? You got the £3 you agreed on, move on you'll be fine.

FurCoatFurKnickers · 22/01/2018 20:28

If you wanted £5 then you should have refused to sell the item to her. The fact she had a £5 note doesn't mean she could afford to spend it all.

You agreed £3 and you were paid £3. You offered to take it round and you took it round.

Yes she was cheeky to try the "£2 in change" routine but she didn't get away with it. No, you haven't been played.

Farmerswife36 · 22/01/2018 20:33

Erm what's the problem ??? You obviously agreed ? Seriously sounds a lot of hassle for 3 bloody quid !

KitKat1985 · 22/01/2018 20:35

I do sell baby bits on Facebook, but I always put collection only. If I'm only selling stuff for petty cashed I'm buggered if I'm providing free delivery too.

MrsKoala · 22/01/2018 20:36

I'm really tired, but this is hurting my head. It seems fine to me.

expatinscotland · 22/01/2018 20:37

She was trying to get it for £2. Chancer. Next time, don't agree to a lower price if you don't want to.

Glumglowworm · 22/01/2018 20:37

You shouldn’t have agreed on £3 if you wanted £5

She was cheeky to knock you down and attempt to get you to accept an even lower price than you’d agreed on, but you had agreed to £3 and you offered to drop it off as that was convenient for you.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 22/01/2018 20:37

Op could have just said no, Stressed?

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Butttons · 22/01/2018 20:39

Sorry, I've been off reading the banana spider thread.....

Thanks for the replies - my point was, if it was me, I'd have either made sure I had the right money before (especially as we arranged it days earlier) and if not just sucked it up myself and offered the fiver. It's true, I don't know this lady's circumstances so maybe the £2 makes a big difference.

stressed that's exactly what I did with someone else, she bought a load of stuff, turned up with less money and said it was okay she didnt want one item but I just said she could have it - she was doing me a favour by taking a load of other stuff!

Ah well, you live and you learn. Last time I budge on the price!

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Thistlebelle · 22/01/2018 20:41

It’s interesting Buttons because if I was selling something for £3 I’d have made sure I had change of a fiver or a tenner in the house.

t00manytears · 22/01/2018 20:43

Jeez OP how have you been taken advantage of if you asked for £3?

Ever considered assertiveness training?

novalia89 · 22/01/2018 20:46

I don't think so, you agreed on £3 and she paid £3. I've said no to offers before.

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Butttons · 22/01/2018 20:53

Wow t00manytears a bit harsh, no? I just thought I'd do a nice thing for someone by accepting a lower offer, then another nice thing by delivering it, then a bit pissedoff that she couldn't even get the right change together.

Maybe I should have told her to fuck off and raised the price?

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fourandnomore · 22/01/2018 20:54

I don't think she's got away with anything as you had change, but I wouldn't have accepted £2 after all that hassle, so well done. You haven't been played. We once sold a tv stand and tv for 99p on eBay. First time i had used ebay, I hadn't set a reserve properly but it was old and huge and we wanted rid of it so never mind. Anyway the buyer and her partner turn up later than arranged to get it, my husband helps them load it all up then they say they've only got a £2 coin. Does he have change? They would not part with the £2. He said he really wanted to unload it all and tell them to get lost but we needed it gone and he was knackered, we'd been moving for days. He had driven to meet them at our old rental and waited for them too. Just told them to have it, got in his car and drove off. Some people are just absolute chancers and I suppose we were mugs. You live and learn I guess.

WorraLiberty · 22/01/2018 20:55

She messaged you to let you know she didn't have the correct change.

Also, you saying you would have sucked it up and just handed over the fiver is all well and good.

But this particular woman sounds like she's struggling for money, given that she haggled the price down to begin with.

taskmaster · 22/01/2018 20:55

She has totally played me hasn't she? I'm not fussed about £2 but have just been left feeling totally taken advantage of

Because someone paid you 3 quid when you had agreed to take 3 quid?
Get a grip.

Original poster

Butttons · 22/01/2018 20:56

fourandnomore shocked at the CF-ness at some people!!

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Whatshallidonowpeople · 22/01/2018 20:58

Maybe if you'd stuck to £5 you'd still have the item. People don't seem to understand, something isn't worth what YOU think it's worth, only what someone else is prepared to pay for it.

Nicknacky · 22/01/2018 21:06

But she let you know she didn't have change. I'm confused why you think you have been completely taken advantage of.

EilaLila · 22/01/2018 21:18

I don’t think she was a cheeky fucker (side note; what is it with so many MNers using this term at the moment?). She asked if you’d sell for £3 and you accepted. You shouldn’t have accepted the offer if you were unhappy.

Mrsmadevans · 22/01/2018 21:21

Take no notice of the CF my dear.
She wanted it for 2 quid you weren't having that and quite rightly too.
You were a bit peed off at her and I understand that but tbh you need to forget it now and never think about it again. Next time give it to charity or car boot it , just not worth the hassle .

DameSquashalot · 22/01/2018 21:22

She tried to take advantage by offering £2. Quite cheeky, I think.

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