Pregnant and Probation.

[ClaryFray]

I've asked this question before but I figured circumstances have changed and I'd ask again. Because my mind can't make its self up.

I want to have another baby. I have one DS 8, but I'd like to extend my family.

I am currently 6 months into a 9 months probation. And my plan was to start dieting and taking folic acid, with a view to starting ttc when job is secure.

I had a meeting at work saying that my probation being signed off is dependant on me passing an exam. If I don't they'll extend probation by two months to allow me to sit the exam again.

I love my job but I'm scared I'll fail and the have to wait another 2 months and lose my job anyway. Then have to find another job and lose more time.

Or I'm thinking of leaving my job finding another one, where probation is shorter and more of a sure bet I'll pass. And then get pregnant half way through.

Or, do I start ttc now, and hope it all works out.

I'm 29 and I want to have another child by 30. I'm scared stiff I'm infertile although dr refuses to help me. Had a stint of 8 months of trying with nothing. I have aniexty so this may be colouring my judgement.

DF says he'll support me in whatever. But I'm unsure. What would you do?

I thought you were talking about actual “probation” not a probationary period at work!

I would start taking folic acid, eating well and try now. I have seen a lot of jobs where the probationary period only ends once an exam is passed. You have plenty of time even if they extend the probation period by 2 months, you don’t have to tell them you’re pregnant straight away either. You can wait until 25 weeks (at my place you can anyway!) as for your doc they can be absolute rubbish, be persistent and demand you get some answers from them, it’s not good enough to just brush you off as being stressed/anxious etc isnt great when you’re ttc. Good luck with your job and ttc. X

I understand why you feel anxious about this (I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of a 9 month probationary period), however if you can I think it makes sense separate the two things in your mind.

Even if your probation is extended, it would be very unlikely that your pregnancy will affect the likelihood of passing your probation in future unless they are directly discriminating against you.
Also if you feel ready to try, I don’t see the harm in doing it now, especially if you don’t put pressure on yourself for it to happen quickly.

I hate to tell you this but this kind of "probation" in employment means nothing.

Until you have worked for an employer for 2 years, they can terminate your employment for any reason at all (except discrimination).

No employer would terminate your employment because of pregnancy and tell you that but an employer could terminate your employment because "it wasn't working out".

Your 9 month probation would count for nothing.