Aibu to be annoyed with so called friend?

[Louisejohnson2346]

Been friends for 15 years but recently she’s changed.
She had an affair with mutual friends husband and now she’s got with him she doesn’t want to know us.
She’s started taking cocaine weekly and just acting erratic.
Saturday night we were meant to be going out on a girls night...I text saying I was excited.
Don’t think I can come,no cash (which basically means she would rather be spending it with him)
Then low and behold I get a message (me and her boyfriend have same initials)
“Yeah I’ve just told her I’ve got no cash,would rather go out with you babe..if you can’t il go out with them”
So basically she’s ditched us for a cheating man she’s been with for 2 months (who left his wife and 4 kids ) for friends of donkeys years.

I wouldn't want a friend who could do that to another friend with her husband (especially with kids involved) so I'd ditch her.

I wouldn't be chasing her for contact if that's the way she's treating you and yeah I'd be annoyed to have seen that message. Does she know you saw it and if so what did she say about it?

No you are not .
I'd be giving her a wide berth.

I'd reply "you're dumped"!!

She replied “ha ha only messing”
I’m out with another friend too and she doesn’t like what she’s become either.
I think it’s disgusting what she’s done.

Ooh I like Cora's idea!

She and him sound delightful, what a lovely couple they will make. Has your friend never heard the expression don’t shit on your own doorstep? How can anyone that is a decent person do that to a friend?

I wouldn’t want her as a friend tbh so she’d be no great loss to me..........

It’s a shame.
I hate when girls put men before friendship (especially if the guy is a shit like him)
He is vile!
Why can’t she see!

He might be vile but tbf she screwed a friend over to shag him so she’s hardly covered in glory

Leave them to it

You should reply saying you know full well she wasn't 'messing' and that you won't bother inviting her out again.

I just replied saying
Hope for your sake he doesn’t fuck you over,at this rate you will have zero friends left.

Leave them to it and move on

I’d tell her that you received the message intended for her boyfriend, and don’t bother coming. It’s up to you how much more you say, she’s changed since she’s been with him, taking drugs and being a rubbish friend etc etc. Yanbu.

I wouldn't bother with her at all, stealing a friend's husband is totally not on.

Why would you hang out and spend time with someone who fucked your mutual friends dh in the first place?

She had an affair with your and her friends husband. Being partly to blame for splitting up a family. She's a disgrace. I'd have fucked her off long ago.

She doesn't sound like much of a friend right now.

The mutual friend was her friend really.
I had only met her 4-5 times.
We were more social friends I guess.
Still feel really sad for her tho.

I still wouldn’t social with her if she’s capable of stealing her friends husbands.

Op, after what she's done to her friend, would you trust her around your DP?
I wouldn't.

urgh - lose her!

It’s not the first time she’s been with married men ...so I wouldn’t no.
I trust he wouldn’t touch her with a barge pole tho.

Personally I couldn't be friends with a person such as her.