Worried about lack of male role model..

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I have a 3 year old girl and a 1 year old boy. Their dad got granted a no contact order until the children are adults..

This means that especially for my boy there is no male role model. I'm really worried about how detrimental this will be for him.

Aibu to not know how to manage this for them as they grow older?

Perhaps the way to look at it is that there is no male role model yet ... who knows what friendships/relationships you may forge in the future? Or what role models he may meet through activities he undertakes in the future? Your DS is only 1, there is plenty of time. TBH, if I had been a boy, there would have been no family role model for me, either: my DF was always physically present but emotionally he was miles away - only ever really cared about himself. He was (or at least, thinks he is) an intellectual, and not remotely interested in the usual boys' stuff. He never played ball games with us, I've never seen him ride a bike, had no interest in talking about feelings ... please don't worry about your DS: there may be plenty of role models to come.

I'm a single mum. Role models have been other dad's,male gp, football coach,teachers. Swimming teacher ect. Ds almost fully grown and has turned out fine. Please don't worry

Thats reassuring thank you.

Im more worried for both of them that they know ans understand what healthy relationships are. They both go to a husband and wife childminders and a big reason was because of the relationship role model.

Im just worried how to teach them everythinf they need to know to become nice adults with self esteem and self respect

Are you a nice adult with self esteem and respect?

I'm goingf to assume yes if so... Well you've got this!

Better no male role model than a bad role model.
I started my boy on martial arts for this reason, but there are loads of good men around to be a positive influence over the years.