Rude friend

[Emy0306]

My friend, let's call her Friend A came to visit yesterday and made no effort at all with any conversation .We had another friend round, friend B. Friend A made no effort all day and was just giving one word answers and just not really joining in. Didn't really bother me too much just assumed she was having a bad day but then we all went for dinner and my friend A just stood back and gave her order in. She had no idea who had paid for her she just ate her meal and went home. No thank you. I've known her for nearly 20 years and feel incredibly let down by her behaviour. I am not actually earning any money at the moment and she knows it . Why are people so rude. Should I say something?

What's she like usually?

Of course I asked her how she was many times over. I know she isn't herself. Is that an excuse not to say thanks ? I genuinely don't know. ..

Doəs she know B.
Did she know B was going to be there.
A lot of people just dont like new faces.
Did she have something on her mind.
Before you fall out. I'd call to see what's wrong. Life's too short.

I would just message her and see what's going on.

"Hi love, you were really out of character yesterday, what's happening? Dinner was xyz, if you could transfer it that'd be great. "

This is going to come over as awful.
However if you knew that she had things going on and then you also invited someone else who she might not have a strong enough bond with to speak in front of, was a bit lousy.

Actually friend b was always coming, I asked friend A because I knew she was at a loose end and she agreed to come. I think a quick thank you would have made everyone feel much much better

Of course I would say something, she owes money for a start.

Something does not sit right with her, keep asking her is there anything wrong. If her head is full of other stuff sometimes you don't realize you are not saying anything.
As for not paying that's a bit odd - could she have just forgotten?
Rather than be affronted ask her round for coffee or go to hers and she what is troubling her. You might want to bring up the cost of lunch but that is your call.

You've known this friend 20 years and on one day she was - as you admit - acting very much out of character. You asked her if she was OK several times throughout the day but she wasn't forthcoming and you now label her as rude.

If she has never acted that way before nor refused to pay before then I would jump to the conclusion that something was terribly wrong rather than she was terribly rude.

Send her a text saying that you know she said she was ok but you are concerned about her as she seemed so withdrawn and that if she wants to talk you're there, aka act like a friend of over 20 years.

I agree with its.

I also agree with itsalwaystimefortea

Thank you all so much . It’s great to get other opinions x

I'd ring her and ask if she's ok, say she didn't seem herself at all.