To ask of it's unreasonable to take DC out of School against ex's wishes?

[MardyMarie]

My best friend has a 9 yo who's above average in everything academically, she's involved in lots of School sports teams, the choir, school council ect. My friend has altered her career to do every school drop off and collection. Her ex has their DD one night EOW only - his choice. He never goes along to watch competitions or shows or asks how they have gone.

My BF has booked flights to her brothers wedding in May which will mean missing three days of school. Her ex is kicking off big time that he hasn't been consulted and saying he disagrees and that he's going to take her to court to prevent it. Naturally, he isn't prepared to take those days off work to do the school and activity runs so DD doesn't have to miss school

My BF is nervous and considering not going in case she gets in trouble with school and the court. My opinion is - he isn't interested in her schooling the rest of the year, doesn't want to help himself - he should butt out. What do you think?

Request three days off ( or pay the fine) and take the child to the wedding. Alternatively arrange sleepovers/ play dates and baby sitting and keep ex out of it.
Yes he should be helpng but not worth it at any price.
Certainly wouldn't be accommodating ex if I were your friend, if he can't help them she needs a plan b

If he has parental responsibility then he could say to the school that he objects to her being taken out. He could go further and obtain a prohibited steps order to prevent the child being removed.

She's already told the school. They can't authorise the absence but the Head said she won't be fined either because her attendance is otherwise 100%

Yes Sidelook but if he isn't willing to take her, he can't force my friend to and to miss her brothers wedding surely?

Or he could stop being a PITA and realise that it’s his daughter missing out on her uncles wedding because of him!!