To not want my kids to play in the " smoking room "

[MummyNessi]

We have recently moved closer my mil, she's normally lovely and we get along great, I am respectful and polite with her. She has a large house with a games room with all the board games, kids toys dvds and TV. This is usually where our kids hang out. When her daughter comes to stay she smokers in this room. I don't want my kids to play in this room when she's been smoking there all day, even after a half an hour airing because I still think it's smoky and harmful for them. The house is big, there is plenty of places to play. Mil thinks I'm being silly. Aibu?

I can't imagine that it is any more toxic than walking along a pavement at exhaust height ie child height.

If you don't want them to then that is your choice but don't get the risk out of proportion.

What are your rules with DH smoking around the kids?

If she smokes in the house the whole house is a risk, not just that one room. I wouldn’t be concerned about just one room, id be concerned about the house full stop.

I don't think it would bother me particularly (and I don't smoke, and abhor smoking).
But, it bothers you and they are your children so your call. Could SIL not be asked to smoke outside, or in another room given that it is a large house? In her bedroom maybe, if that is a different one to the one you/the DC use.

Agree with kissme. Chill.

What's the whole house going to do to them Mono just because someone occasionally smokes in it?

I am constantly askance on MN at how people calculate risk. Their lives must be terrifying.

The ‘take it right outside’ campaign will highlight the issues. My point was if the OP has issues with one room she should be concerned about the whole house. On a personal level, MIL smokes and we don’t visit very often but I’ve never considered not having my kids in one particular room, as the smoke is in the house regardless.

Nobody is ever allowed to smoke anywhere els in the house just " the games room "

DH never smokes around the kids, no even if we are outdoors together.

Yanbu! Second hand smoke lingers and is still harmful up to five hours later!

Look at www.rightoutside.org for more info on this, it really is very harmful for children.

Depending on how often he smokes I imagine dh's smoking is likely to expose the children more on his breath, clothes and hands. I wouldn't be happy though and I would want all the toys stored elsewhere.

No chance would my D's be playing in that room. Why risk any health implications when the house is big enough for it not to be necessary?