I've name changed for this and I will try and keep it brief but wanted to ask MN as I don't have anyone to talk to IRL really. NC might be a bit extreme but any advice really...
My parents split when I was tiny and I still saw my dad twice a month, we never had the best relationship always came home to my mums crying bc he'd been drinking a lot and shouting at me etc. so we've always had an odd relationship and I've never been able to talk to him and he's never really known me.
Something happened in my teens and when he was told he said " if you weren't out drinking and wearing minimal clothing it wouldn't have happened " which has always stuck in my mind. I stopped the arranged regular contact not long after this.
Fast forward to when I'm at college and I was struggling a lot with mental health problems and I dropped out to start working instead. My Dad was so annoyed I wasn't going to university that he stopped paying CM to my mum who was already struggling with money. He said if I wanted to act like an adult and drop out then I didn't need any money but this money was for my mum to pay bills etc so it effected her.
Anyway several years later and we didn't speak for a long time, I went through a hard time, went a bit out of control ( which my mum saw and had to deal with, he didn't ) and then i got in contact later and told him i'd moved out, was living with my lovely DP and had a job etc and we really got on well, our relationship changed and we went to the pub together and I felt I could talk to him. He then got a girlfriend who i've met a couple of times, he's been single for a very long time so I was really happy for him but suddenly things changed and he never messaged me to see how I was. I didn't see him for 6 months, he'd ignore all my messages ( I can see he'd read them ) and it's like i'd been phased out! I'd ask how his day was or what we was up to that weekend and he'd ignore it. I didn't get too upset as I figured he's happy with his girlfriend and he's just living his life and that's fine. Christmas just gone I rang him in the morning to say Merry Christmas and there was no response, rang a couple of times throughout the day and no answer but he'd been active on Whatsapp and Facebook so ignoring his own daughter on Christmas day. Took my Mum texting him to make him ring me! I've still not seen him since the summer and just feel like he just doesn't want me in his life. I don't understand why he ignores my messages all the time. I don't know if it's the girlfriend or if he's just busy and doesn't really care. So do I just accept that he doesn't want to see me and stop messaging him?
Sorry it was so long and thanks if you read this!