DP has left me and I can't get over it.

[theveryhungrycaterpilla]

Tale as old as time really.
DP (now ExDP I suppose) left me a few months ago. But he still comes round about once a week and we sleep together and act like we're still a couple. When we first split I know he was seeing other people but don't think he is anymore.

I feel so shit, like why do I sleep with him? He's a prick.

Also worth mentioning I'm 28 wks pregnant with his baby. He wants to be involved, as involved as possible. I'm happy with that but worried about the impact it's going to have on myself because I don't know where I stand with him. I've tried asking and it doesn't get very far. I know he hasn't got a clue what he wants, and I'm not helping myself still sleeping with him.

Don't really know what I'm looking for here. I know I sound so selfish. Just feel awful after he's left and so worthless and confused.

Ughhhhh

As already said, stop sleeping with him. You deserve respect and he clearly has no respect for you.

I don't know where I stand with him. I've tried asking and it doesn't get very far. I know he hasn't got a clue what he wants

Oh yes he does. He has a romanticised view of fatherhood, wants to be a Disney dad while you do all the graft and the night wakings and the visits to the clinic; and he wants sex on tap. Without the responsibility of being a partner.

As you're already providing the latter, he's guessing you'll also provide the former.

You don't have to do this solely on his terms. You get a say in how your life and the baby's are going to be. Show him you're prepared to stand up for yourself and don't be his doormat any longer.

Stop sleeping with him,he’s using you for sex.knowing you still have feelings for him
Your 28wks pg with his child and he’s out with other women,really that’s low
He should be making sure you’re safe,happy,comfortable. Not dropping by for sex
Let your mw know he’s gone so she can monitor your health
Get an STI test done
Gather your good friends, folk who’ll listen,treat you well and be reliable
I hope you have a healthy pg. please take care of yourself

I say you need to put yourself and your baby first and not sleep with him or let him use you in any way

He has financial responsibilities to the baby, involve the CSA. Don’t go for any adhoc arrangement
Maintenance payments

As long as you keep opening the front door he will keep entering
Shut the door on him and concentrate on yourself and your baby

Why on earth do you think you sound selfish?