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AIBU to ask how you make ‘couple’ friends?

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Summerandgin · 20/01/2018 17:26

3.5 years ago we moved a 3 hour drive away for DH’s job. It’s a lovely part of the world and we’re both pretty happy here.

I have been lucky in that I’ve managed to make quite a lot of friends through my hobby and also work. 3 of the friends that I have made up here have long term partners / husbands and we have done stuff with them before but tbh the husbands/ boyfriends generally seem to have their own friends and hobbies and aren’t that bothered about DH Blush .

DH is annoying me slightly in that he has made no effort whatsoever to make any sort of friends up here. The only thing he wants to do when we have any spare time is go back to where we grew up and see our friends (especially his) there. That’s fine as I enjoy going back too and seeing my friends and our couple friends, but that hasn’t and wouldn’t stop me from making friends where we are now.

I feel guilty as I go out a lot with my single girl friends up here, or even the attached ones I seem to see on their own, just them and I and DH will either be working or their partners will be off playing golf/ rugby or something. (DH doesn’t play either or these and/ or doesn’t want to anymore due to an old injury 🙄) so he doesn’t come along either.

There are times (like today) when we have a rare Sat off together and we’ve been out and it’s been nice but Sat night is drawing in, we’re a young(ish) couple in our late 20’s with no children and we haven’t got anyone to go out with tonight. I’ve been invited out by one of my friends whose husband is at a rugby do but I don’t want to go as it means DH will be sat here by himself.

I really think we need to start making some ‘couple’ friends up here but I don’t know where to start. I’ve been lucky in that I’ve made friends but like I say, no one really that we could be ‘couple’ friends with, like the ones we have back ‘home’

Has anyone else been in this situation and if so, any ideas?

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Tatapie · 20/01/2018 18:35

Invite your new friends plus partners for dinner.

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SimonBridges · 20/01/2018 18:39

I’d also be slightly concerned why as a childless woman in her 20s you would be on
Mumsnet

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I joined when having ivf. Should I have handed my membership card in as the sonographer told me my baby had died or after I handed it’s remains over to the nurse in the ward?

Any woman has every right to be here as many of the threads have bugger all to do with having children.

Perhaps the op joined to help overcome a miscarriage or for contraception advice or to get help leaving an abusive relationship or for a recipe or a knitting pattern or because she like the company of other women.

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SimonBridges · 20/01/2018 18:40

Back to the ops question.

I found most of our couple friends through me becoming friends with the woman. Dh isn’t big on making friends.

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DriggleDraggle · 20/01/2018 18:48

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