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Friend changing plans but failing to tell me

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Bedsox · 20/01/2018 16:53

Hi everyone, im feeling a bit annoyed maybe someone can make me see this another way.

Best friend called me this morning and asked what i was up to said i had not long been up but would be getting myself and dd sorted to go and collect my car thats just been fixed and then id head over to hers for afternoon as she mentioned she was broke so didnt have money to do anything so i said okay il bring dd over so the kids can play. My dh also offered her to come over and have a bottle of wine tonight while my dd is in bed and her oh watches their children ans my dh would also leave £10 for her to ger a taxi home after. We hadnt decided on this evening's plans but had left it that once i had collected my car i would be over.

I collected my car and usually i would head straight over but i decided to call her to ask it she wanted me to pick anything up on the way and she informs me her sister had shown up and lent her money to go out for lunch so they were actually already on their way to the resturaunt. I get on with her sister but she can be really odd at times and certinly likes to do things to cause trouble. Best friend said we wont be that long and sounded a little to me like she was expecting me to wait outside hers for them all to her back. I told her i wouldn't wait around and i was going home with dd as its not fair for her to have to sit around in the car i live the other end of a busy city so traffic on a saturday is crazy.

Im annoyed because had i not called i would of been left stood on the door step witb a 18 month old surely a quick text to say plans had changed wouldn't of hurt but i know the reason the text didnt come as then my best friend would of felt she had to invite me and her sister can't stand kids although she has a 13 year old and my best friends children are 10 and 4 the 10 year old has asd so not sure why one more fairly well behaved child would hurt the 4 year old can be incredibly naughty if she wants to be.

Put it this way she can shove her bottle of wine up her ass tonight im so pissed off.

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Gemini69 · 20/01/2018 16:56

she's clearly doesn't give a shit about about anyone but herself OP Flowers

BadPolicy · 20/01/2018 16:56

YANBU. HTH.

Bedsox · 20/01/2018 16:56

Also so not to drip feed the sister was supposed be on YET another date with one of the many blokes she had been talking to but it fell through so she wasnt upset or anything they just rearranged.

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Bedsox · 20/01/2018 16:57

Also the children are all related im my best friends OH cousin.

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Bedsox · 20/01/2018 17:03

Gemini i fear you are right which sucks because shes been my best friend for 11 years. Sad really that her and her sister act like this when they are together. I always make her sister involved including my recent wedding my best friend was bridesmaid but i involved her sister in everything even invited her for a drink the morning of the wedding before i got married and had my hairdresser do her hair and then i get treated like shit in return. Oh well more wine for me Wink

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ItsAllABitStrangeReally · 20/01/2018 17:04

You sound like a far better friend than she deserves op.

Butterymuffin · 20/01/2018 17:06

She should have texted or rung to tell you plans had changed, at least. Withdraw a bit from helping her out.

Bedsox · 20/01/2018 17:09

Yeah i think i will im not so bothered by the plans changing just would of been nice to of been told. Since ive got home ive done some bits i was meaning to do here so not all bad and dd has had a nice afternoon watching disney and playing with her kitchen.

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