Where are all the men?

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My mum is in hospital at the moment; she's been in for a week on a female geriatric Ward. I have been with her for at least 6 hours each day. During this time not one of the visitors to other patients have been male. It's all women. Daughters and friends. Not one single husband or son. Where are they all?!

maybe they have no sons or a partner

Doubt it. There are 12 women on this ward.

If it helps give you some balance my DP was regularly at his father’s bedside when he was in hospital and now he has passed he is at his Mother’s side helping her cope. He is there right now in fact!

Dead? Old women tend to outlive their husbands and brothers.
Working?
Live away?
Don’t like hospitals?
Not as caring as women?

In during the other 18 hours of the day?

They're sadly more likely to be at work during visiting hours. Not rocket science.

My DH is currently, as I write, visiting his DM who has Alzheimer's.

I expected to see a few here today, thus accounting for those who work, but have been here since 9.30 and not seen one.

It just seems odd that in the considerable percentage of daily available visiting hours (10 hours a day) that I've been here there have been no men coming in to visit at all.

It seems that visiting elderly women in hospital is women's work.

This is pretty typical unfortunately. Caring roles often (mainly) fall to female family members.

Dead or working.

The femiatricy ensures women outlive the men. Men are more likely to be earning to allow these women and daughters to come to hospitals and have leisurely chats with relatives.

I googled femiatricy and got no hits. Did you make a spelling mistake? What do you mean?

TrinitySquirrel They're sadly more likely to be at work during visiting hours. Not rocket science.

Is this irony?

A friend of mine visited his elderly mother in hospital yesterday and will be going again tomorrow.

Sounds like bliss.

Women are brought up with the expectation that they will be "carers".

Men are not burdened with this assumption.

My grandma is in hospital and hinted she didn't want male visitors so only female family visit her. She feels underdressed being bed confined and is vulnerable. She knows the family men care because we pass cards and well wishes from them to her. The males in my family also don't want to cause other female patients (it's a women's ward) any stress as it's likely others feel the same. I am sure that I would feel the same about male visitors to other patients seeing me if I was unwell in hospital and in bed clothes whereas I can honestly say that i don't think it would bother me how many female visitors saw me. Some may call it prude but I'm sure many women would feel the same.

The femiatricy ensures women outlive the men

There is literally no such word as femiatricy.
When you have to invent words to support your bile, you're probably talking rubbish.

Reminds me of this book:

www.amazon.co.uk/Have-Men-Enough-Margaret-Forster/dp/0099455641?tag=mumsnetforum-21