To stop feeling guilty

[oldguygirl]

Why do I feel so guilty?
I've been feeling ill for two weeks - flu which has ended up with a upper respiratory infection. Saw the doc last week and should have gone back to see him on Monday but life took over.
My mum had a stroke on Sunday along side pneumonia. She hung on til wed and then passed away. I live 100 miles from my home town- went up there on Monday morning and lived out of travelodge and my car for three days. Exhausted beyond words and getting more and more ill.
Haven't been to work all week.
Been to the doctors today - have been given a course of steroids and a sick note for another two weeks. I work in a Stressful environment and doctor doesn't think I can cope with grief, illness and work.
Why do I feel so shit about I though! I feel so guilty!

It's grief not guilt

You've had a terrible time! You could ask for a month in my book.

Please don’t feel guilty.

You’ve been through a horrible ordeal and your body needs time to rest and recover.

Listen to your doctor and forget about work. It will still be there whenever you decide you’re ready to go back to work.

Try to examine what you feel guilty about

Sometimes it is easier to fixate on one small pretty insignificant thing than cope with another of tsunami proportions

The doc sounds v sensible. Grief requires time. Flu requires time. Exhaustion requires time.

I'm sorry to hear about your mum and hope your flu gets better soon