to think that PILs are thoughtless (rescue dog related)

[Mustardnowletsnotbesilly]

DH and DS (Just turned 2) have gone about 250miles away to stay with PIL for 2 nights. First time in a year. I am home with a tiny DD.

For back ground PIL lost there beloved dog last spring and we lost a wonderful dog just before Christmas. She was DS's best friend and we all miss her.

Anyway I just spoke to DH and PILs are bringing home a rescue dog today! I mean WTAF!!! They haven't had a dog in a year and they decide the first day of a 2 day break with there 2 year old screechy, excitable, into everything DGS is the best time to bring an unknown dog into the house.

Presumably the dog has been given to them as it needs a quiet couple like home. How scary and shit for it to have a toddler in the house for the first 48 hours! It will make it so anxious.

I'm not too worried about the dog biting my toddler as DH will keep them apart but thats not relaxing is it and will be upsetting for DS who will cry and upset the poor animal. Having said that its tough to watch children constantly and its a risk i'd rather not take.

DH reckons he can cope and won't ask them to pick the dog up on Monday but how stupid. Why couldn't it have waited?!?!

Its just so thoughtless for all concerned. I've told DH that if the animal is too nervous or there is any upset to come home. FFS. Thanks for the rant.....

Agree with cantucci.

It doesn’t sound ideal, but maybe it’s a dog that’s been in foster with young children and they know it’ll be fine?

Unles they’re complete idiots, I’d let it go. Certainly I wouldn’t send them a text (!) asking them to pick up their dog to bring to their home two days later than planned.

Your PIL need to delay the dog coming.

OR they need to tell the rescue place what they have planned for this weekend and let THEM decide

this is absolutely batshit crazy

do you know what rescue centre it is? If you did I'd recommend calling them yourself and telling them

Maybe they had to take the dog now and it couldn't be put off. Maybe they have a plan on how to deal with the new dog while having visitors. There are a lot of unknowns here.

Thanks everyone. No the PILs aren't bad people at all but are quite unthinking. It has been agreed that the dog will now be picked up tomorrow late afternoon so DS will be with the dog for a maximum of two hours. Much better idea. Not sure what happened but my firm texts to DH might have helped. Phew!!!

Glad you've resolved it in a way that will keep everyone happy Mustard

Thanks Duck me too!

My PILs did something similar once. Myself, DH and 3 year old DD were due to go round to SIL and BIL house for a meal. PIL decided to pick up their new rescue dog that day and bring it to the meal. The dog was part Staffie and SIL dog was a full Staffie.

It was bedlam. We were all sat at the table and the dogs were growling and trying to fight each other underneath. I stupidly didn't say anything at the time but I wish I had. They didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with it. In the end DH said PIL should take the dog home. Luckily they did, it was such a stupid thing to do.

Agree with Cantucci as well. The PILS are adults, can make their own decisions, and are not obliged to view everything through the prism of what their dil wants. They are entitled to do things for themselves without always considering what their kids think.

If I ever get a dil, I hope she won't try to be controlling as many of the dils on here seem to be.

Congratulations you got your own way. If it was them telling you what to do in your own home you would be outraged, but its ok for you to do it?

PIL are idiots. Even if the dog is great with children, arriving at its new home is going to be very unsettling for it, and having a screechy, unpredictable child there is going to make it all the more so. They shouldn't be getting a dog if they're so lacking in dog-sense and common sense! They should have a calm, welcoming environment ready for the dog, not an excited child and someone the dog hasn't met before. Plus your DH is going to have to watch dog and child like a hawk.

Congratulations you got your own way. If it was them telling you what to do in your own home you would be outraged, but its ok for you to do it?

MIL constantly tells me what to do in my own home... I have never been outraged.

Projecting much?